On On Engagement Ultimatums

@Aequorea Victoria THIS. I cant fathom how the one with no biological timeline is the timekeeper. THIS MAKES NO SENSE. Full disclosure- at 33 I just last month broke up with my BF who is 39. While the issue of marriage was not the reason (we had other problems) He had no concerns over time where as I kept thinking if its not him- i Need time to be able to recover, heal, meet lots of people, find the right guy etc etc if i want kids. He, at 40, can easily go date someone 25 and not think twice about biology.

Posted on October 21, 2014 at 2:26 pm 0

On This Is Terrible, But: The Pain of Tipping People Richer Than Me

@Erica if doormen made 100k- i would be fighting to be the first door-woman.

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 11:32 am 0

On This Is Terrible, But: The Pain of Tipping People Richer Than Me

My (now ex) boyfriend had an employee who was asking for more money. Over dinner he was discussing it with me and said something to the effect of how his gf made a lot of money- why should he pay him more. I was in shock. I looked at him and asked if my company should pay me less because he made a few times what I did. The same boyfriend is utterly convinced that all doormen (including his) make over 100k. It may be that he is european- but he was a horribly tipper. ( i would overcompensate for him) A tip is not charity. And while you may get the good feels for tipping a lower income worker than you do a higher one- if the service is one that usually garners a tip- a tip should not be based on what you believe they make.

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 10:15 am 2

On Our Money Daydreams: Huge Apartments and Bustling Hometowns

@HelloTheFuture i do too. i think it means i need a bigger apartment (that i cant afford)

Posted on September 17, 2014 at 5:14 pm 2

On Aspiring To Be An Effortlessly Cool Woman With $400 Shoes

@Runawaytwin 225 TOTAL. for all of them.

Posted on September 17, 2014 at 4:13 pm 0

On Aspiring To Be An Effortlessly Cool Woman With $400 Shoes

@TheLifestyleCreep yes. this is me. We should shop together (except we would fight over the same deal) I bought 40,000 dollars "worth" of evening gowns (12 in total) for 225$ at sample sales. I have enough dresses for any type of wedding now. No matter how much the original mark up was made up- I got a good deal for 225.

Posted on September 17, 2014 at 4:12 pm 0

On Cleaning House With Jenny

@oiseau interesting about the reference to colonialism The united states doesn't produce much any more (in terms of factory goods, crafts, mechanization of farming etc) . but we have a lot of people who need jobs. So the classes divide and service ( or servitude) industry proliferates.

Posted on September 12, 2014 at 8:15 am 0

On On Feminism And Fashion

I work in fashion. And i love this perspective!! (I am also often saddened however that even though i am surrounded by women- the companies are still headed by men.) Still i have a female boss who is "aggressive" and i think its great.

Posted on September 10, 2014 at 4:40 pm 2

On Thirtysomethings Just As Delusional as Twentysomethings

@gyip same boat but only 3 years. i feel like i could die. You dont happen to be in nyc and need a roommate do you? Ha. Im joking. Sort of.

Posted on September 9, 2014 at 3:57 pm 0

On Thirtysomethings Just As Delusional as Twentysomethings

i am feeling like am going ot to throw up. I turned 33 on last monday and broke up with my boyfriend the same day (due not only to his actions that day but for months.) Now im losing my home (we lived together- the apartment is his; im scrambling on CL for a roommate) and i feel like i am starting from scratch. at 33. I can barely function.

Posted on September 9, 2014 at 3:55 pm 0