I found out after about 6 months of dating my exboyfriend that he expensed nearly all our dates as "dinner or drinks with potential client". Eventually he got fired. (For that? I don't know. We had already broken up.)
@garysixpack Same situation with citizenship, I think it's 5 years. And you can work and everything during the five years, it's just the uncertainty that if your marriage doesn't work out you can't get permanent residency at the end.
@garysixpack No I understand that - the thing I was pointing out is that in the US the process is "get married --> apply for green card" whereas in the UK it's "get married --> apply for 5 year (previously 2 year) visa --> apply for permanent residency IF you're still together after that point".
@Aconite Ah I didn't realise that! My friends actually got married when it was still 2 year spouse visa --> straight to indefinite leave to remain, before they changed it to five years. My boyfriend and I have looked into various possibilities when my work visa expires in 2016 (I'm eligible for permanent residency then, but don't earn enough money anymore to qualify for the route I was on). I think I'll get a family visa then and then FINALLY ILR in 2017 when I'll have been here for 10 freaking years already.
This is really interesting, because I'm only really familiar with people marrying to get residency in the UK, where I live. The way it works here is that you can get a spousal visa valid for five years, and then if you're still married at the end of that time, you can apply for permanent residency. So the first visa is a little bit easier to get (no interviews or medical checks, from what I remember about my friends) and costs £885 ($1493, so exactly the same!). But then you have to apply again for permanent residency five years later which I think costs about the same. I'm not sure if this process is better or worse? I think it costs more over time, but requiring people to still be married after a few years in order to get permanent residency kind of makes sense to make it more difficult to have a sham marriage.
This is super interesting. I notice that all of the respondents are women, was this intentional or not?
@Beans The only person I know is my now exboyfriend's exwife. She left a closet full of clothes when they got divorced, which he still had when he and I got together. So we (well, I, actually) sold it all on eBay and made £200-300 which was fun!
Sometimes I feel stressed because I'm in a lot of student debt and my income is variable and I often feel like I don't quite have my head above water. But I'm a happy person because I have good friends, am in a great relationship and feel very satisfied and happy about the work I do. Would more money make me more happy? Probably not, it would just keep me from stressing out every once in awhile. But then I guess my definition of "no money" meaning "lots of debt" is different than "not sure if I can afford food today"
@cmcm Political Science.
@TrotskyHoldsMyiPod Ugh. I *know* that all of these things are true, but I'm currently a part time PhD student paying my own tuition by working part time and running a business whilst also trying to pay off my student loans from undergrad and my masters... Soooo... retirement savings isn't an option anyway.