@lemonhead3159 Congrats! It is super emotionally complicated to have windfalls, although fiscally it is quite rewarding. I think you did exactly the right things with it!
That tweet so encapsulates Lena Dunham's entire ethos, which I am very vocal about hating: "I sort of tried a little to do something good or nice, but I didn't actually do it, but can I still get credit for it? Because it crossed my mind?" I could write paaaaaaaaaaaaaages about why I dislike Lena Dunham but I will try to refrain.
Constanza's fantasy is the plot of a terrible Billy Currington song that is probably playing on a country music radio station near you at this very second. ("People Are Crazy" if you really need to Google.) My money fantasy is being voted a World Series share.
At my college (public flagship in the SEC) there was a regular library and a study/learning center that had classrooms, study rooms, reading spaces, a huge number of computers, and a small collection of books in a silent study room that I didn't even know EXISTED until my last semester. One semester I volunteered to be part of a "How do you use the study center?" focus group because it involved pizza and civic participation, which is my game. It was run by two ladies I would describe as hipster librarians- youngish, glasses, Anthropologie/thrifted-looking vintage, soft-spoken, very excited about learning. They each introduced themselves by saying, "I'm Jane, I'm a librarian here at the study center, and I specialize in teaching research methods" and "I'm Joan, I'm a librarian here at the study center and I specialize in community engagement." So we went through the whole process- I think we had pizza, then there was form to fill out, then some guided conversation, then we maybe estimated how often we did certain things in the study center, etc, and at the end was, like, free-form comments. I was a nerd and so I knew that the study center was a part of the campus library system and had librarians, etc, but apparently this was not well-known, because one girl started her comments by saying, "I don't really think of the center as a library. It's just where I do my homework. I mean, I know you guys called yourselves librarians, but-" IN PERFECT UNISON, both of the facilitators immediately interrupted her and said, "WE ARE LIBRARIANS." Don't insult the digital librarians, people! THEY ONLY LOOK MILD-MANNERED.
"There’s an element of it that feels anti-feminist to be telling a young woman what she can and can’t wear, especially when the complaints originate with men. It’s like, I’m sorry you can’t stop staring at this woman but maybe you should check yourself." I wish this round table (which was interesting!) had questioned the premise of the dress code a little bit more, since it seems that office dress codes are almost exclusively enforced on women. I wonder if there's any actual research on that or if it is just my feminist bias, but I don't seem to hear many stories about young men in their first professional jobs who have to be "counseled" on appropriate attire. Anybody have bias-confirming anecdotes to share??
"It was a really touching gesture, and the generosity behind it made me realize that at a rescue ranch, the horses are probably not the only ones trying to heal past traumas and hurt from earlier in life." I think it was very kind of you to recognize this and find it generous and sweet. We all need more humanity in our lives.
@eatmoredumplings oh, man, I am so sorry. That absolutely sucks. I'm so afraid of having a low turnout birthday party that I haven't had one (other than with my family) since I was 11. I hope you have/had a great birthday with your husband and your friends. Maybe for your thirtieth YOU could be the fun awesome thing everyone is doing? (Uh. I mean. Um.) Like a beach weekend or camping, but you do a big birthday booze fest one night. Idk, I love to give people advice they didn't ask for. :(
@crenb Really?!?! I always felt very cheated by my summer birthday, because all the summer birthdays were celebrated on the last day of school and you had to share whatever kid birthday thing the other kids got all to themselves, like being class leader or returning the milk tray or whatever. SPOILER: I got over it.
I turn 29 tomorrow (actual 29, although who knows maybe I'll turn 29 another seven or eight times and then jump right to my late-thirties) and know approximately 82 other people with birthdays in the last two weeks of August and the first two weeks of September, including at least 17 who are my birthday twin (sedectuplets YEEEEAHH!). I call us Eggnog Babies.
@The Dauphine I only realized a couple years ago that when people say "do a 5k" they often mean run the entire race relatively fast? I have done a bunch of 5ks, but I take walk breaks. The rest of the time, I don't so much run as plod. Counts as far as I'm concerned, y'all.