@deepomega i guess i regret not getting the joke and becoming the official "clueless hairpin jerk" of this thread, but in my defense people really do believe what natasha vargas-cooper is too cool to mean about paying for dates, and i'm actually jealous of you for living in a world where it's impossible for somebody to say what she said without meaning it, at least a little bit.
@redheaded&crazy i guess my line of thinking goes: "why isn't SHE a scab for giving guys blowjobs when she wouldn't, except for the pad thai?" because honestly i'd rather split the tab than give an unenthusiastic blowjob. why are those the terms of the deal we are defending? and in general, i think you should be generous (with dinner tabs and sex) with people you care about, and absolutely NOT feel entitled to either under any circumstances. there are situations where it's implied that one party or another will pay for dinner (i think that if you invite somebody on a date to a nice restaurant, you are implying that you will pay), but i don't think those situations include "every time a woman goes on a date with a man for the first time."
@redheaded&crazy i don't feel like i'm from the same planet as this woman, how am i supposed to feel solidarity with her? i am not exchanging pad thai for blowjays, and i am not a scab.
@aetataureate word. it can get downright inane. there was a post where commenters jumped down the throat of a guy whose parents were public school teachers and had saved up to pay for his public university tuition, for being spoiled and privileged. it's too bad, because i really like the concept behind this website. but maybe money is just too touchy of a subject.
@ASCtvartedun what does 99% mean to you? in literal terms, it means below $350k annual household income of $8.4 million net worth--there's no evidence of that amount of wealth in the piece. the writer's life hasn't been a great tragedy, and in many ways she is privileged to lead a comfortable life. but it's just inaccurate to say that she's not part of the 99%, unless it means something other than what it seems to.
@Genghis Khat YES i had such nightmarish experiences at music camp, literally because i did not shave my legs when i was 11. (even the camp counselors called me "beast.") camp is such an intense lord-of-the-flies social experience that i am (unfairly?) instantly suspicious of people who enjoyed it. like, you were one of THOSE people. but i'm totally sending my kids to camp, if i can afford it. parents need a vacation too.
@ghechr yeah, i'm sure it's a realistic depiction of how most people are. (on average, we are less responsible than we should be, and that includes me and 75% of the people i know!) but it's still really shocking to see it spelled out like this.
@navigateher i meant spain, as i said in a subsequent comment. stuffisthings already showed me.
@deepomega youth unemployment is bad here too...