This was very well-written. I don't really have anything else to add, except that is made me really sad.
I am truly impressed your ex reached out to you three years later to pay you back, and didn't bother you further in any way. Good for him, and you! I hope you spent that $600 on something amazing.
@rightclicksave I was actually rejected from Carleton, a fact I am still bitter about. However, "Zoot Suit Wyatt" was a great bit.
@Poubelle I hate to say it but Northfield is far better known as the town where Carleton College is, rather than St. Olaf. You're right that they do have a great music program, one which my MN alma mater tried - and failed - to be just as good as. Though if you ask me, moreso than either school, Northfield SHOULD be known as the town where Tricadecathlon began. But that's just me...
@LookUponMyWorks I am not Amanda, but my absolute fave is James Hoban's (Dupont Circle), which has $2 mimosas and a brunch that lasts til 3pm. Some other good ones are Le Diplomate, where all the food is amazing (Logan Circle), Red Derby, which is pretty cheap & consistently tasty (Columbia Heights), and Sixth Engine, which has a cool & slick decor (just outside Chinatown on Mass Ave). ETA: I do not go out to dine often, but when I do, it's for drunk brunch.
@uncleezno Minneapolis is liberal, diverse, affordable & also MN has one of the best public school systems in the country. I won't say it's not cold but if you can handle CT winters, with an extra layer or two you can definitely handle MN ones. Also I second @bgprincipessa's recommendation of Philadelphia.
Thanks for being so blunt and honest, particularly about how emotions/SOs/cultural & geographical identity can play into your job search. As someone who has been around that bend a few times (re:moving for someone - in one case to DC - but only once it made sense for me job-wise) it's SO MUCH change all at once, and especially hard if you are acutely aware of what you're leaving behind. Sometimes those gambles pay off, though. Best of luck to you.
On Lost Luggage
In 2004 I saved many pennies and went to visit my sister for a week in Italy, where she was studying abroad. Unfortunately my bag disappeared somewhere between the US and Florence, but my sister and I were about the same size at the time so I was able to get by wearing her clothes. I thought it was gone forever until it was delivered to my house (in the United States) 6 WEEKS later.
@pissy elliott Precisely. Inherited money isn't the only factor to consider when you're born into a supremely wealthy family. Inherited power/influence/social capital can have just as much if not MORE significance in shaping a person's future.
@Josh Michtom@facebook "The initial investment would be minimal, but the long-term costs are significant" is how I'm going to answer the next person who asks me why I don't want children, barring my grandmother.