There was one hotel restaurant I worked at for a year and got stuck with all the holiday shifts: I worked the Thanksgiving lunch shift and was sent home with a Thanksgiving sampler and ate it out of its plastic container waiting for my boyfriend at the time, a chef, to get off work. Sad. I worked Christmas Eve and was stiffed by an customer who didn't like how often I checked up on her table and told me as much: "I hope you're not expecting a tip." Unjust. I worked the 5am breakfast shift on New Years Eve and Day. The dinner crew got a bottle of champagne. I got nothing and, furious, quit shortly thereafter. It was obviously terribly managed, the manager was eventually fired for embezzlement, and the entire hotel was shut down shortly thereafter.
I've been here! Once, years ago. I was new and self-conscious to the Korean spa world and did not take full advantage. Definitely did not see anyone doing sex to each other or to themselves. It was actually the least sexy place I've ever been.
Also, just a thought: have you considered taking a semester or a year off to work and save up some money for your tuition? I took three years off after my freshmen year. Bonuses: I had a lot more appreciation for my education once I was back in school, I had a much better handle on my finances after going through the adult boot camp of having to pay my own bills with no safety net, and I had an amazing resume while most of my fellow graduates had no work experience, so after I finally graduated with a worthless English degree, I had no problem finding a job thanks to years of practical corporate experience. It wasn't glamorous, but it worked for me.
Get yo'self a $2 bunch of kale from the farmer's market and make your own kale chips girl, you deserve it: http://ohsheglows.com/2014/03/12/6-tips-for-flawless-kale-chips-all-dressed-kale-chips-recipe/
Congrats! I also used a sticky note that I kept in my wallet. I would constantly recalculate my payoff date based on any mini-windfalls that came my way.
Melatonin gives me migraines. My therapist gave me some tools to deal with anxiety-driven insomnia: focus ferociously on the sensation of the bed underneath you. If your mind wanders, come back to the support underneath you. Feel every part of your body being supported. It sounds too simple, but it puts me back to sleep within minutes.
I tip 20% across the board except when I'm receiving a service from someone who owns their own business. I get facials from a lady and feel a little badly every time I skip the "add tip?" part of her phone's credit card processing app, but she sets her own prices and works out of her home. I don't tip my housekeeper either, but I would if she worked for a company. W/r/t your hair woes, it is so hard to find a trustworthy stylist that I feel you on having a hard time moving on from someone even if their services have become unsatisfactory. Keep asking around for recommendations. Your lobster hairstylist is out there.
Buy the boots again. Get them in two colors! I once bought a pair of perfect sandals. When they went on sale two months later, I bought them again, even though the original pair had not worn out. 2 years later, I felt no remorse throwing away the original pair and breaking out the new pair and still wear them nearly every day. If they were still made, I would purchase them again in a heartbeat. (It was 90 degrees last week; sandal weather never ends 'round these parts.) (brb, googling the sandals to see if I can restock.)
I am pleased you looked this up because I followed this AMA and was curious how extravagant a purchase this was but was too lazy to google it myself. Whenever I get a significant raise, I buy myself a new purse (in the $300 range) and schedule a 90 minute massage. Windfalls are 70% savings, 20% shopping sprees and celebratory meals.
Ouch. It is definitely time to start looking for a new job. You might consider voicing your concerns to HR. The phrase "you will never be paid what you're worth" while they're paying someone with less experience near the same amount reeks of discrimination.