@cashcow Hear hear. My mom managed, with the help of a very determined lawyer friend, to free herself of the tens of thousands of IRS-owed back taxes my dad generously left her, but she/we never received a dime of child support. My sister and I both graduated from top notch colleges, were able to take advantage of so many opportunities--all because of my mom. It's so hard out there. Lots of respect and good wishes to you, Single Mom. I second the commenters who suggest using the internet to find friends in a similar situation; I know my mom's church and work communities (she's a teacher) were immensely helpful to her financially and emotionally.
@shannowhamo Yes! I pass a DD every day and also live a few blocks from Dough--all the kinds are delicious. I only eat them once in a blue moon but either kind can really hit the spot
@readyornot yes to every one of these suggestions! I've been suggesting so many more day-dates and hang outs now that the NYC weather is (slowly) getting nicer. Beers and boxed wine + cheese in the park beats so many unnecessarily expensive other activities
@JitterBug not with that attitude!
This was extremely well written and resonant, Mike. I think it's easy to condemn parents who are focused solely on what their child will earn, but I think if your parents have had significant financial struggles, they simply want their kids to avoid those stressors. My mom is a single parent, on a teacher's salary, and was therefore very concerned when I decided to study and pursue art history. It's working out, I won't be rich but I'm making it ok, and I think she has relaxed a bit about my financial future. I hope that one day your mom will recognize your accomplishments, Mike, not the least of which is helping others of your generation feel less alone in our money questions/crises/adventures. I read the Billfold faithfully and so appreciate you having founded this blog and you super engaging contributions here.