On Going Above and Beyond Doesn't Help You

At my last (and somewhat terrible) job we were ranked on a scale of 1-5, and only as I was literally in therapy because the constant negative feedback was destroying my self worth, did someone explain me that supervisors were not allowed to give out 5's because there's always room for improvement. So I was getting consistently evaluated as a 3.5 and my take away (for three years) was like, I'm working as hard as I can and am constantly getting a C+. And my supervisors feeling as that it was an almost a perfect score, but not telling me that. It just seemed really counterproductive and ultimately demoralizing to do things that way.

Posted on August 27, 2014 at 5:54 pm 0

On Taking a Year Off to Do What You Love, A Year Later

Way to be writing from inside my LIFE! After a toxic couple of months at work, daily panic attacks and a one month medical leave for intensive outpatient psych treatment, I realized that I could not continue to work my relatively prestigious and reasonably paying nonprofit job anymore. So after some hard talks with my partner and a good look at my savings, I gave notice a month ago. The plan is to get some part time consulting work, but mostly to make art and apply for arts residencies and not be miserable. One month in I have earned $400 from random gigs and craft fairs but a million dollars in not crying in the back stairwell at work, which is priceless, right?

Posted on July 29, 2014 at 5:19 pm 2

On Our Attempt at a $20-a-Day Budget

Pizza seems like the cheap option but actually isn't? Pasta dude, Pasta. You can make a scratch spaghetti and marinara plus a nice salad and even garlic bread for a lot of people for almost no $. Like $20 or less. I've recently gone back to a super cheap budget ($80 a week on fun and $60 a week on groceries, so essentially $20 a day by your standards), and it's been going pretty well so far. I'm over on some things (I give myself $30 a month for art/craft supplies, and I'm way over this month) but also way under on food. Not drinking helps a lot and so does eating veg and not eating out.

Posted on July 22, 2014 at 2:07 pm 1

On Here Is Your Open Thread

@TheDilettantista She is a national treasure! Have you read her Paula Dean cruise article? Or her restaurant reviews of tourist traps? She's seriously the best.

Posted on July 18, 2014 at 5:18 pm 1

On The Most Expensive Meals We've Ever Paid For

@andnowlights We had to get a reservation months in advance, and at like 5 or 5:30, but the early hour was actually nice, since we were the first people being served in our area, which means that each course was a surprise. And I mean, like edible helium balloon surprise! But do it! It's a once in a lifetime experience!

Posted on July 18, 2014 at 5:11 pm 0

On The Most Expensive Meals We've Ever Paid For

My partner got a Fulbright and was out of the country for a year. He didn't spend all of his living stipend, and to celebrate his return, we ate at Alinea. It was about $500 for the two of us, including tip, and no wine pairing but probably 4 really nice beers. I was a little worried it might be disappointed, but honestly, it was kind of amazing. They were really nice and not snooty at all, it was delicious and magical, and at the end of it Grant Achatz made a giant frozen chocolate egg in front of us and then smashed it all over our table. I don't know if we'd ever do it again, but even though that was a huge amount of money I'm really glad we spent it.

Posted on July 18, 2014 at 2:10 pm 1

On The Cost of Things: Beer for Life, $1000

It's not the first coop bar. The Riverwest Public House in Milwaukee did something similar, and has a really cool community membership process as well! http://riverwestpublichouse.wordpress.com/

Posted on May 30, 2014 at 10:26 am 1

On "The Rich Are Different From You and Me." "Yes, They're Better."

Not only do I love that episode, but every time I'm almost done with a sewing project, I have a vision of Marge mangling her Chanel suit, and I have to move my foot away from the machine pedal.

Posted on May 22, 2014 at 2:05 pm 0

On Money I've Really Wanted to Spend on Fandom But Didn't

@keystar If anything, I'd like her to present as less healthy or at least more **something**. This whole season it's like her stage direction has been "look vaguely sad, serve a source of sexual/plot tension between Will and Hannibal." She's become an object of the plot, rather than an agent in her own life. On the first season it had the most interesting/complex/smart/competent female characters of any show on tv, and this season they're all dead/missing/dying/victimized. It just makes me really sad.

Posted on May 16, 2014 at 12:10 pm 1

On Money I've Really Wanted to Spend on Fandom But Didn't

It's possible that Bryan Fuller answered your question "How is Alana Bloom so well-adjusted?!" in season two with "nope, she's not." SIGH. Why is Hannibal so good and why has it totally abandoned all of its female characters. WHYYYYYYYY

Posted on May 16, 2014 at 11:31 am 1