@raptor41d Yes, but wouldn't you say an awful lot of underpaid and self-employed work is done by women exactly because it needs a safety net in the form of a richer partner? You don't find this to be a sinister pattern in any way?
I'm a little tired of reading about how women rationalize doing what's actually pretty societally expected still, despite being somewhat financially risky. It's all good until the other person wants to stop supporting you. Also, it's all good unless it's the man who has a barely self-supporting job. Then he is a loser/slacker who can't pull his weight. I mean, I am sure their relationship is very nice but what happens if they break up? Then it isn't "their money" anymore and she doesn't have retirement saved.