I have started carrying around cash when I have a spendy weekend coming up and want to make sure I either a) leave enough money in my account for it (if it's later in the month) or b) leave enough money for the rest of the month. I do one of two things - either take out money to spend that is "all my non-[spendy weekend] cash for the month" or take out money to spend as a limit on that weekend. I get paid once a month, and it's really helped me manage my spending throughout the month so that I suddenly don't get to something I was really looking forward to & I have no money left for it.
@OllyOlly That is fair! I do use email a lot for that purpose. If I have an important phone conversation I'll often send a summary email to the person I talked to "So we established that you will X by Y date and I will complete..." so there's something on the record.
My email never came!! Oh well.
Rule No. Two: Pick up the phone, instead of relying on email PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, for all the reasons she listed, there is a reason I asked you to call me back and not to email/text me PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. I realize some people have phone anxiety, but sometimes I wonder how much of that is brought upon ourselves? We KNOW there's options that are less confrontational and less direct than calling someone so we work ourselves up about it and avoid it. I'm not trying to devalue anyone's real experience of anxiety but sometimes it seems like phone aversion is just...not wanting to pick up the phone, rather than truly being anxious about interpersonal interaction. I wonder about phone anxiety in like, the 50's-80's, where it was the major way to get in touch with someone immediately?
@polka dots vs stripes Also, seconding almost every comment here. There just isn't the infrastructure OR the social expectations to support biking, especially for women (esp, see: social expectations), so ergo - we don't bike.
@Katni I think this is a huge reason too. Unless you live AND work in the urban core or in some of the few communities that really invest in bike infrastructure, there's just no way this is do-able. I can think of a lot of communities that are "bikeable" in terms of small towns, downtown centers, etc, but you can't actually get from the residential areas to the downtown center without going through a lot of really scary (even as a driver) intersections and then good luck finding a bike rack.
@Karebot Basically it was just far enough to look disheveled but not far enough to bother with the hassle of getting ready at work. AH you just articulated something I've been struggling with with my also-2-mile commute! Far enough I sweat a lot, not far enough to make it worthwhile to really --invest-- in bike commuting paraphernalia. Thank you!
Gah! I refreshed by accident and lost my comment. It boils down to a bunch of different things, namely: -safety concerns (mostly poorly lit streets)/increased street harassment when I bike -appearances-biking in a sheath dress is much harder than men's dress pants and I have no interest in choosing two outfits just to get myself through the workday. I also have no interest getting on the elevator with my mostly male coworkers either supremely sweaty or in spandex. There are no rooms to wipe down/change in my building that aren't also bathrooms and while I've done it in a pinch, they are really not my favorite places to get myself ready for the day. -although I'm not a mom, the logistical effort of bringing everything I do have to carry. A bike is expensive, but so are panniers. Even a basic back rack plus baskets can run you $60-80! Sure, I could carry my purse, lunch, maybe laptop, maybe a library book I have to return, other stuff on my back, but see above: appearances (more sweat, yay) and also, no desire to be a human donkey on wheels. And if I did do there, then there's no opportunity to run errands or otherwise pick up anything that might not fit on your back.
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@ECW it's not that gentrification is racist, per se, but it's part of a larger history of socio-economic inequality that has prevented low income people from building wealth (both economic and social wealth) by pricing them out of their historic communities. Gentrification also often forces out local successful businesses because they don't fit a modern image of what a bustling economic center should look like; white or wealthy values displace existing community values. Gentrification would be great if it was all about raising the value of abandoned or otherwise really distraught communities, but oftentimes it is displace existing vibrant communities.