@swingdancefan It's not the same issue. AT. ALL. When the First Lady starts a campaign dedicated to eliminating the scourge of people who look like you, when there's a multi-billion dollar industry dedicated to making people taller, come back to me and explain how sizeism goes both ways. Even within the fashion industry alone, the petite offerings at department stores are considerably more fashionable than plus size - the two departments are usually right next to each other, and if I had a dollar for every time I saw something fashionable, thinking it was plus size, but no, it was over the line in the petite section, I'd be quite well off. I'm not saying petite people don't have challenges in finding clothes, I'm just saying it's not at all the same level of discrimination that fat people face, and also is not the point of this post. I would suggest that the women's clothing industry as a whole is not friendly to women, regardless of their size.
@Megano! eShakti is pretty much my favorite. Word of warning, though, I have yet to buy anything from them that wasn't delayed by at least a week, and sometimes three, in the shipping time. Order your christmas dresses NOW, ladies.
@LO <3 also I realized that most of the links in there are for no-longer available clothes, but oh well.
I have a lot of feelings about this topic! And because I'm trying to be less of a cunt, I'm not even going to engage the fat-shaming basic bitch up there in the earlier comments. What I would like to point out, however, is that Forever 21's plus size line is 1) not carried in most of their stores and 2)stops at a size 20. So that's, what, 3 more whole sizes? I happen to work right about a Forever 21 that DOES have the plus size department, and their plus size stuff is way less cute and on-trend than their straight sizes. 50% of women wear above a size 14. Half the women in this country are shopping in plus sizes. It is an enormous (ha, rite?!) untapped market, and your conspiracy theory is totally true. The article you link to is interesting, because the "plus-size fashion bloggers" they link to and focus on are really on the small end of plus size, or not at all - at a size 10/12, you're not even an inbetweenie. A size 18 girl in a bikini?! Quelle horreur! Black Cat Bikinis and Ester Williams both make sexy-as-hell bikinis up to a size 26, and people are buying them and wearing them. Using Lena fucking Dunham and Mindy Kaling as examples of fat acceptance is incredibly insulting to people who are legitimately fat in the real world, and face the sort of size-based discrimination those two women couldn't even begin to comprehend. There's no plot line on Girls in which Lena Dunham is forced to buy a second airplane seat, you know? How anyone in their right mind could write about plus-size fashion blogging and not mention Lesley Kinzel and Marianne Kirby, both pioneers in the field who started out talking about fatshion and have moved on to fat acceptance in general, or hell, without talking about the fatshionista livejournal group, has either not done their research or is deliberately shying away from fat fashion bloggers who are, you know, actually fat. Also, not to shamelessly self-promote, but perhaps someone intimately familiar with this issue has written about it in a humorous way, on, say, your sister site?
@julebsorry For starters, respecting me a lot is always a mistake - I'm guaranteed to disappoint eventually. To open up a bit, I'm in a weird position, because my entire family and an awful lot of friends were affected by this storm, and as I am several hundred miles away and unable to give direct support like this, I've been feeling incredibly frustrated and useless that I am unable to help the city (and Long Island! and also I suppose New Jersey) recover. I've bought a few things off of the hurricane relief amazon wishlists, but still - I'd love to be able to kick some money towards someone whose life has been made quantifiably harder because of the storm. So maybe I was a little heavy handed in my language (see above, re: don't respect me.) But also, I wasn't responding to you as much as to @lizard's "a bit annoying" and "redistribution of wealth" comments. Your criticism - dammit, I'm trying to save money, not spend it, that's why I visit this site! - is far more valid than the idea that throwing a busboy ten bucks is wealth redistribution. And "we all suffered in the hurricane" completely ignores reality. My parents' electricity STILL isn't back on, yet my father's the first to say that what they're going through is nothing compared to how other people lost absolutely everything, and, you know, died.
@lizard You seem to have been cut off in mid-sentence there, so let's do a mad-lib and fill in your blank! Here's my suggestion: "i dont feel the need to even out the wealth asap just because i am ignorant of the different struggles other people go through, and even though it is in times of crisis when people come together to help out the least fortunate and hardest hit, i am going to think only of myself." That's what you were trying to say before you got cut off, right?
So I had one of my "trapped in a car and suddenly have to drive" nightmares last night, and I blame this post.
I find menu planning SO much easier in the fall/winter than I do in summer. Why? Breakfast every day is oatmeal, lunch is a sandwich and fruit, and a big pot of something gets cooked for dinner on Sunday and lasts me through til Wednesday. (Leftovers are portioned and frozen.) Then something else from the freezer or a quicker dish for the rest of the evenings. I spend $30-50 a week on groceries, plus a trader joe's run every two months or so that runs me about $100. I've got maybe 10 or so recipes for "big pots of something" - chilis, stews, slow-cooker stuff, etc. This seems to work? I have no idea what to do for the "big pot of something" element in the summer, though. Hooray for weather that allows me to cook what I like!
@RosemaryF ... that might be a step too far?
oh! legit idea for you! A friend of mine went as a black-and-white film star last year - wear all gray, black, and white (the more oldey-timey, the better) put black or gray spray in your hair, and gray face paint over all exposed skin. Dark gray or black lipstick, and all makeup in grays. She looked fantastic!