On Places I've Lived: <3 <3 Minneapolis <3 <3 and ... New York

I lived with my Rylee all through college (05-09) and the year after. Then she moved in with her girlfriend which I knew was a terrible idea, but knew telling her wouldn't work. Then next year we moved back in together (the breakup with her girlfriend lasted another year into that) and she then got her own place and I moved in with my now husband. Our other near constant roommate (05-09, 11-13) moved to Omaha, so that's been hard, but I admire it. I'll probably live in central NJ forever.

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 2:09 pm 0

On I Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About Hair Removal What About You

@polka dots vs stripes 5-- It's very specific to my chin too... I've always been self conscious of my lip hair, but the chin and neck are new.

Posted on May 23, 2013 at 3:03 pm 0

On A Friendly Chat With a Rich Person

@mczz Unrelated question, and I'm sorry if everyone gets a notification. But are your initials MCZ? Because, if so MINE ARE TOO.

Posted on February 8, 2013 at 11:25 am 0

On What to Get a Baby for His Birthday

My nephew turned 2 on April 8th! I am an accountant so I'm decent with money (in theory) and also feel sick when I see how much money is wasted on babies who don't need anything (my sister wanted us to get my nephew a bigger fish tank for his birthday. the fish tank he currently has is just too small for his 2 year old tastes apparently)... For my sister's baby shower, I gave her a $4 clearance clothing item from Babies R Us that would fit him when he was 1. I also gave her a card with a print out of a savings account deposit of $200 dollars. When my nephew was born, I transferred another $100. Technically this account is in my name right now. On his second birthday it has $1,000 collected from me and my father and other sister. When it hits 12,000 I'll have to transfer it into his name to not have taxes on it, And I'm guessing I'll do that with bond purchases so he can't access the money until he's in college (my roommate had bonds mature right after college that paid off her student debt, I'd love to do this for him). Now my third sister is pregnant. My nephew's mother consistently has her water turned off but bought 2 Christmas Trees and the party she threw for my nephew cost upwards of $500. My pregnant sister does not want to follow in her footsteps. Our core family is 6 people. Our parents, and we four girls. Parents are divorced and in new relationships, my 3 sisters all have boyfriends but I'm using the 6 as a guide. If, instead of frivolous gifts we put $100 dollars per core family member aside on birthdays and Christmas (that's $50 each per couple) her kid will graduate high school with 21,600 (not including interest income) to her name. 26,400 when she graduates college. Thankfully this sister is much more willing to listen to this idea. As a person who is sitting on the low number of $30k in student debt, I recommend this to anyone with a niece or nephew. My current nephew won't have as much because no one's willing to partake, but going forward it would be a great gift to give to the next generation of our family.

Posted on April 24, 2012 at 9:30 am 2

On 'Titanic 3D': Leo's Still Swoonworthy, But is it Worth Watching Again?

What I noticed about the movie in rewatching was that Rose & Jack literally cause the sinking of the Titanic with their ridiculous need for PDA. The lookouts are watching them talking about how that's a way to stay warm and by the time they turn around it's too late! Way to go, sluts. Also by proxy they are responsible directly for the first deaths (the guys searching for them in the cargo area who are wiped out in the crash) and indirectly responsible for every other death.

Posted on April 20, 2012 at 1:57 pm 1

On On Doing Your Taxes When Your Child is Kidnapped

I used to do taxes and would be researching something arbitrary and fall into one of these wormholes... Also depressing? Death or birth of child. A child who was born or died during the year is treated as having lived with you all year if your home was the child's home the entire time he or she was alive during the year. The same is true if the child lived with you all year except for any required hospital stay following birth. Child born alive. You may be able to claim an exemption for a child who was born alive during the year, even if the child lived only for a moment. State or local law must treat the child as having been born alive. There must be proof of a live birth shown by an official document, such as a birth certificate. The child must be your qualifying child or qualifying relative, and all the other tests to claim an exemption for a dependent must be met. Stillborn child. You cannot claim an exemption for a stillborn child. Seriously, who thinks of stuff like this? Well did he technically live for a moment? Cause then we get that sweet deduction to ease our pain!

Posted on April 13, 2012 at 2:24 pm 0

On Let's All Sell Our Genetic Material (For More Than It's Supposedly Worth)

@BuffyBot ughhhhhh shoved a wand not a want! seriously, edit button! I am shamed.

Posted on April 6, 2012 at 10:52 am 0

On Let's All Sell Our Genetic Material (For More Than It's Supposedly Worth)

@BuffyBot oof, Billfold, please get an edit option! sorry for the redundancy in the first and second paragraph.

Posted on April 6, 2012 at 10:50 am 0

On Let's All Sell Our Genetic Material (For More Than It's Supposedly Worth)

I'm also a two time egg donor. They actually called me about a week after my first donation and said I was a great donor and wanted me to donate again... I wonder if they say that to all the girls (haha). I told them no, as I had donated over winter break and was now in school again. I said no initially, because I donated over winter break when I was 20 and so I was thus in school again. It paid for my semester and books. I donated again in the summer when I was 22 before my last semester of college. This time I got one of the side effects which sucked (ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome) but even that was a mild case. They called again, I said no, just because I was kinda done. I made enough to cover two semesters and books (and a trip to Jamaica) and now I would be graduating and working and being able to make my own money. This article was interesting to me because we have a very similar story, but I think we feel differently about it. The main focus and question asked by me during my evaluation was if I felt I was giving away a child. That baffled me. I'm giving you eggs that would either wither and die in the follicles, and the one that would have been flushed down the toilet (sorry if that's crude). I think if you answered that question "yes" you would be eliminated from consideration. A friend of mine who works in abortion has said the same thing happens if they ask a woman if she feels her abortion is the same as carrying a pregnancy to term and then smothering the baby. They say yes, they're outta there. My sister, who is insane, has twice accused me of selling my babies. I have told her that I'm incredibly concerned that she has no idea the difference between an unfertilized egg and a child and she has a two year old. Also, I donated 60 eggs (29 first round, 31 second round - crazy!) so this means I have 60 children? The snark about the mother is a little unnecessary too. Where I donated, you were required to submit a baby picture. I'm sure that the recipient looked for someone who looked like her, resonated with her personality, etc (there were a lot of handwritten "about me" sections). This woman then carried a child to term, gave birth to it and has since been raising it. How dare I pretend for a second that it somehow belongs to me? Also she's a little flippant about adoption. Adoption is not easy and costs an average of 35k. I believe securing a donor costs around 20k and can sometimes be covered by insurance. Saying "it's not my place to judge" and then judging is still judging. Lastly - the egg donation industry is not perfect. I donated twice, had a fine experience and don't regret it, but there were some things I took issue with. I read The Handmaid's Tale while I was taking my injections the second time around. While obviously incredibly different, sequestering the donors in a different, less nicely decorated waiting room from the recipients screamed of that mindset to me. While I'm sure we were getting a substantial cut of the money spent on IVF, the clinic was getting the majority and they essentially wanted to provide the recipients with the illusion that they were still just helping them get pregnant, the invisible donor was to be forgotten and pretended not to exist. Also: They really fucked up my first ultrasound. I had never in my life (20 years old, remember) heard of a transvaginal ultrasound. They told me I needed to come in for an ultrasound. I asked if I had to drink water, they told me no, I thus assumed that there had been medical breakthroughs in field of ultrasounds. Then I went in and they told me to undress on bottom. "Underwear too?" Yes that too. Oh, ok. Then they shoved a want inside of me. It was an absolute shock and completely unprofessional to not prepare me. Also the doctor that handled most of my ultrasounds (every other day at 7:30 am, post blood test and drug test) was rough as hell. It was incredibly uncomfortable, much more so than the few times I had a woman do it. They also didn't really inform you of what was going on. I had to ask a lot of questions "what is that, why are you doing that?" and he was not very forthcoming. I see his face on billboards all over my state and cringe remembering him. I had a new OB/GYN last year who was very kind and sat down to talk to me about my history and when I told him I'd donated he asked me about the doctor and said he's known him professionally for years and can't stand him, so I guess it doesn't reflect too awfully on the center, but ugh. My donor coordinater was awesome, she came to check on me after surgery (retrieval, haha - so true), and the entire staff that day was great. They handed me my check with my graham cracker, I cashed it immediately each time. So that's that. Three years since my last donation, and I don't regret it, if I did it all over, I'd do it again, but I will not do it a third time.

Posted on April 6, 2012 at 10:49 am 0