@Lauren I love that APW piece too, even though I actually do have an "allowance" that's half the size of my husband's (my idea, just like Bowen Close). For me it's to give myself something to look forward to and work towards, since he currently makes 6x what I do. When that changes in a couple years after I (hopefully!) finish school, we'll even out the amounts. We don't think of it like it has to be a percentage of our income or anything, like if one of us became unemployed that person wouldn't automatically get $0! It's just that in this particular situation I think it makes sense to set up my fun money budget with incentives to keep working toward my goals, even while we both think of it all as "our money." (Socialism, but with better contingency management? Trying to prevent the marital version of the USSR's empty shelves, or something?)
@TheclaAndTheSeals I got a lot out of this APW thread where commenters listed their budgets.
@julebsorry I hear you, AND... can we *please* ban the word "nicer" as applied to spending-more-money, especially for weddings? "Fancier"? "More high-end"? I could even allow "classier" since at least that admits class has something to do with it.
@omgkitties Yeah, the other problem is that some of your passions might be really obvious (I like animals! -> try to get into veterinary school), while others might take years of working different jobs to reveal themselves (I like being a member of an interdisciplinary team / I like analyzing data for an organization whose mission fits my values / I like being on the road all the time). My observation is it's a lot easier to find a job you'll be happy with long term if you take that kind of process-oriented rather than content-oriented approach to figuring out what work you're passionate about. Or I guess just read What Color Is Your Parachute!
Gus's manager suits, sure, but the one from *THE END OF SEASON FOUR*? Definitely bespoke.
Loved this interview, thank you. Such great stuff. I wanted to say, though, that when you're a kid whose parents don't have as much money, you usually *do* get a "real understanding of financial realities" - not having to think about money reads to me as having it, you know?
This was wonderful, thank you.
@Sandra Boiteau@facebook Yes! Now that I have a CSA, I regularly pretend I'm on an episode of Chopped.
@cherrispryte Hi! Um basically I guess my advice is to become terrified enough of debt/emergencies/asking-parents-for-anything to keep yourself from spending money? I dunno. (Also it was really more like $300/month I was saving out of a $1600/month take-home.) Basically at that point (early grad school) I was keeping my entertainment/eating out budget to $20/week, groceries $30-$40/week, and maybe another $20/week to save up for buying clothes/things, which I know is kind of crazy. Probably the hardest parts were not having a lot of money for Being-A-Girl stuff and having to organize most of my social life around lunches on campus where I could BYO. Oh but to be fair deepomega was buying me a lot of drinks! Anyway I really don't think everyone needs to prioritize saving like that, but I loved the peace of mind I got from having my nest egg.
@madrassoup Not in the original sense of trolling for newbies, but in I guess a newer sense of trolling for pageviews (as MuffyStJohn was complaining about way upthread).