@Josh Michtom@facebook Maybe "work harder" isn't quite the right way to think of it, but I think there's a legitimate point there -- it changes the calculations behind people's pursuit of higher-paying jobs. Suppose my family gets to the point where our combined household income just hits your morality cap -- another dime and we'd be morally obligated to give that dime to charity -- and then I'm offered a promotion that comes with a raise. To what extent do I have a moral obligation to take the promotion, so that I can direct that extra money toward charity? How does the extra sacrifice of time and energy that the new job might require factor into that moral obligation? You said upthread that it would be immoral to turn it down "expressly to avoid some imagined charitable obligation" -- what about turning it down because I'd rather spend an extra 5 hours a week with my family than spend those 5 hours working toward a charitable cause? I guess essentially this is getting into the question of: is it moral to spend any time on leisure when you could, instead, be spending that time working toward the greater good?
So, I read this and thought, "You know, that's odd -- no one I knew growing up ever went to a public pool," and decided to poke around a little bit to see if I could figure out why, sort of assuming that the answer would be, as suggested in this article, race/class related. But in fact, it turns out it's because there AREN'T ANY. I live in the one quadrant of Houston that has zero public pools. I assume it's mainly because I'm close to two little enclave cities, where the City of Houston can't build a pool because it's not technically their jurisdiction, but I still feel slightly wronged.
Ugh. I (stupidly) engaged in the comments on the Inside Higher Ed blurb about this and I'm still regretting it, like, a week later.
I transferred from my "the one" dream college, which was a small (smaller than my high school!) private school with a strong regional reputation, to a huge state school with a mostly-commuter student body and basically no reputation at all... and I was so much happier at the huge state school. I think I probably would have been equally happy at any large school -- the main problem I had at the small school was that I couldn't get away from the work that was stressing me out, because the campus was so small that no matter where I went I would run into someone from class who would want to talk about how hard and stressful the paper was. I think there probably isn't one Right School out there for everyone, but maybe there's a broader Right Category Of School?
@cjm Yep! The very cheapest* prepaid phone and plan I could find on my wireless company's website is $15 for the phone, $25/month for the plan (250 minutes, unlimited texting, no data). That cuts your savings down to $235 for the one-time phone purchase + $900/year on the plan. Which can still add up to a respectable amount -- invested at 6% over 30 years, you'd come out around $77k -- but 1) it's significantly less than the proposed $102k, and 2) that's still making a lot of assumptions about what will happen to phone costs and interest rates over the next 30 years. *Well, not exactly the very cheapest. There are pay-per-use plans that could be cheaper if you use your phone very infrequently. But they make the math unpredictable and complicated, so I'm going with the cheapest straightforward monthly plan.
@limenotapple I always leave Panera in a good mood, even though the meal itself may not have been particularly good, because the last thing I eat is the little mini-baguette that you get as a side. I think that's the answer. They're coasting on mini-baguettes.
@HelloTheFuture I'm curious about that, too, especially in the context of marriage-related changes in social status, as you brought up in the post. I'm also really curious about what kind of analysis the author has done and how confident he is that the groups he's tracking are actually meaningfully connected to each other, especially given the De Belcamp/Beauchamp/Beacham example cited in this article, where it sounds like he readily admits that, yeah, he can't really be that sure who's descended from whom in that sample. For what it's worth, in my own family history, there has definitely been upward social mobility within the last three or four generations -- but my great-grandparents also had recognizably Polish and Czech names that would have marked them as recent immigrants and probably carried associated class markers, and I don't, partly because of marriage and partly because someone on my father's side actually changed their surname, apparently for the specific purpose of obscuring their ethnic origins.
I think the only thing I've ever paid for extended protection on was my router, because the guy at the store explained to me that "these things tend to slow down over time, and it's basically undiagnosable and unfixable, so if you buy the 3-year protection plan and bring it in, like, 2 years and 10 months from now and tell us you're having connection issues, we'll just give you a new one." Joke's on me, I moved out of state after 2 and a half years and missed my chance at a free router.
My grandfather grew up poor and (according to family legend, anyway) swore a vow to himself that, if he ever made it, he would have ice cream with dinner every night. He did make it; I don't think he stuck to the letter of the vow, but he did have some kind of dessert with dinner every night, and always had a tub of his favorite ice cream in the freezer. He was a notorious cheapskate in every other respect, and I'm sure he would hate to think that this was the main financial lesson I learned from his life, but he taught me that money exists to be used -- that, if you have enough money to spend a little on the things that make you happy, you should, because otherwise what's the use of having it at all.
@HelloTheFuture Yeah, but it seems like she's living under a looming threat of financial instability if/when she and her husband split. (Of course, what looks like "financial instability" from where she's currently standing may actually be "oh no, now she only has as much money as Kristy, which I just said like 20 minutes ago seemed pretty stable". But it's unstable in the sense that she doesn't know where she'll stand six months from now, anyway.)