On If You Buy Your Wife a Mansion

Agreed on the misery that would befall my hypothetical husband if he "bought me" (us, in reality, right? or are they actually writing their wife's name and only hers on the deed? why are they even talking about it as if it's a gift, if not?) But if, like a total stranger, or even a friend wanted to buy me a house for funsies, I wouldn't complain, because that's probably the only way I'll ever own a house :/

Posted on November 21, 2014 at 2:40 pm 1

On Here Is Your Open Thread

@cryptolect Yeah, we have basically opposite schedules, so if it happens again I'll just politely talk to her about moving the heavier spanking sessions to daylight hours. Luckily, I got over my passive aggressiveness many years ago :) Reading some of these stories now is making me feel better! At least the loud sex-haver is super clean.

Posted on November 14, 2014 at 5:28 pm 0

On Here Is Your Open Thread

Last night I woke up at 2 am to very loud sex from my roommate, who apparently is taking up S&M with her new boyfriend... with her bedroom door open. I'm living with roommates for the first time in like four years (being more financially responsible!) and it's mostly fine but at moments like that, ugh. But probably my worst roommate experience was when I was living with my boyfriend and two other girls in a 2 BR apt (tiny, damp, cold hovel, no common space) and one of them had an emotional breakdown, refused to allow my cat in the apartment anymore, and informed me that she "was having a really hard time and just felt like she needed to be in control of the house." I'm sure it was much harder to be her during that time, but being her roommate also really sucked.

Posted on November 14, 2014 at 4:05 pm 0

On On Living Cheaply in Los Angeles, Or Trying To

Ahhh this is hitting home: . In fact, I had made the mistake of conflating useful fiscal prudence with daily unhappiness. When you’re used to indulging yourself, it’s just so easy to imagine that being responsible will be miserable, and so to make yourself miserable instead of actually facing up to what it would take to be responsible—both with your money, and with your self and your headspace.

Posted on November 14, 2014 at 11:58 am 2

On The Uniform I've Chosen for Myself

I love that a major component of your uniform is being able to wear a t-shirt with no bra to work. Yeahhh comfort!

Posted on November 11, 2014 at 11:52 am 1

On On Food, Cancer, and the Illusion of Control

Another very, very good reason to buy organic is to protect the workers who are wading through fields of vegetables doused in chemicals to harvest our dinners. A lot of them are teenagers, and a lot of them will be diagnosed with cancer (definitely tied to the pesticides), and a lot of them will not have health insurance to pay for treatment. It's easy to get caught up in what eating decisions are right for us and our families, and forget about everyone else up and down the chain supporting our eating habits. (this isn't meant as a criticism of any part of this, just an additional part of the conversation). xo

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 3:04 pm 3

On 'Don’t Get a Puffy Tail Over It'

"getting a puffy tail" is my new favorite expression, that is GENIUS!

Posted on September 9, 2014 at 1:04 pm 1

On Let’s Throw Some Money at Our Problems: May 2014 Check-in

Ok! This month I write from the last hour of my last day at my lawyer job (for now), and on Monday I start circus school! For that goal, I wanted $3000 in the bank, which I got! (well, minus some funds I already spent for circus tuition). For my second goal, paying down my bar loan, in April it was $10,178, interest 9%, and it is now... DRUMROLL... $9,910, officially below the original balance! Four years later. (¬_¬) But whatever, I'm paying attention to it now and it's slowly melting under my fiery gaze and in the meantime excuse me while I go hang from things for a couple months WHEEEEEEEE!!!!!

Posted on May 30, 2014 at 6:04 pm 2

On Alternative Remedies I Paid for in an Attempt to Avoid Spine Surgery

Oh hush, raptoresq. As if western medicine is devoid of "flim-flam artists" or ineffective (and even damaging) treatments. If you don't know anyone who's had a terrible experience with surgery, just live a few more years and it'll happen, unfortunately. I appreciate the real talk Lisa, and I'm glad you're feeling better. But yes, no more psychics :)

Posted on May 29, 2014 at 3:23 pm 0

On Amazon: Falling Out of Our Good Graces

Yup, samesies as nell. I don't live close to a shopping center where I can get electronics/household stuff, and I work long hours, so being able to order things to my house with free shipping is a convenience that's hard to give up. And I use the wishlist feature to keep track of stuff that I'm planning on buying or thinking of buying, which makes me even more dependent on it. Maybe this will be the year I give it up though, because that list of crummy behavior is getting pretty long ... I do often choose regular shipping instead of the free two day shipping because I like to imagine it eases the pressure on the warehouse workers in some very small way? :/

Posted on May 29, 2014 at 12:08 pm 0