"If someone is simply chasing short-term benefits like money, there’s a culture mismatch." Translated, then, if someone isn't middle class enough to have a decent safety net elsewhere, we don't want them in our company! That's great, thanks startup culture.
@Dancercise "every job I can find" <- to which I would add, including ones for which I am massively underqualified! You can definitely get jobs via "resume-on-file" - I have done it and seen it happen in companies I've been a part of. Remember, the director whose role you are applying for will need managers to report to them, managers will need executives, and now HR can say, well, here's someone who's qualified and enthusiastic...
@Wilgrims Perhaps it depends on your industry, but in mine (tech, loosely) I'll get approaches from recruiters 2 or 3 times a month on Linkedin. Maybe one of those a month will be relevant to what I do or want to do, so it's not a bad hit rate. From the people that I know in recruitment, they do pretty much all of their seeking out new contacts that way as well. Again, your industry's mileage may vary on this.
@princessjasmine It's ethletic.dk. I totally endorse this product! They are very comfortable as well as all of the people/planet credentials.
It's possible that where you're at when you become financially independent has more of an impact than how your parents behave. I moved in with a partner straight out of college, we had salaries in the low to crazy low range, we were really frugal and most of my savings are from that period of my life. That's a pattern that my parents stayed in all their lives because they did more or less the same thing - got married actually at University with no money at all to speak of. Whereas that relationship ended for me and when I worked out I could afford to live alone I realised this also meant I could also afford to spend more on things that I liked - which I did with remarkably little moderation for some years after.