On 'I Had My Backpack and 20 Cents': How Cheryl Strayed Does Money

Megan Johnson is not awful, she's doing great! Sorry, just wanted to even it out there for you. I saw Cheryl Strayed on this same tour and she was just so chatty and relatable. I already liked the book, but I don't expect my authors to be personable... she definitely was, though. I'd recommend people go see her even if they haven't read WILD yet.

Posted on October 30, 2014 at 4:17 pm 0

On Paying for Theaters vs Waiting for Netflix

I am conscious of trying to "vote with my dollar" and seeing indies and movies directed by women that I feel are still underrepresented in Hollywood. They will still make a Captain America 3-7 without my money. "Obvious Child" was one of those; I liked it a lot, so I felt gratified and got that good-consumer halo.

Posted on October 27, 2014 at 11:36 am 1

On A Drunk Stole My Kale. You Won't Believe What Happened Next!

@TheDoctorsCompanion They ARE expensive! When I was a senior in HS, my car got broken into and the thief made off with my whole backpack including my calculus book. (And a photo of me with my crush, THANKS THIEF.) I'm sure they just dumped the calc book somewhere, but meanwhile I had to go to my teacher and borrow a spare book because you couldn't buy that edition anywhere.

Posted on October 21, 2014 at 8:34 pm 1

On On Engagement Ultimatums

Have I done it? No. Have I thought about it? Yes, maybe not seriously, but the idea has occurred. A friend of mine gave HER boyfriend a similar ultimatum and he proposed, part of me wondered... should I? My partner and I have been together for years, such that people often ask ME "are you guys ever going to get married?" I would like to and have broached the subject with him from the angle of, "Hey, I would like to get married in my life and have kids, and if neither of those things are on your radar at all you need to tell me." In THAT sense, the Dear Prudence letter rang true for me, because there's usually some kind of a time element to these kinds of conversations anyway. "I would like to have kids eventually" is more of a philosophy when you are, say, 25 than when you are, say, 29 and believe that your best chance is to do it in the next 10 years. But honestly, reading everyone else's comments I realize that what I should do is either woman up and propose, or stop bringing it up in an unproductive manner. ((DEEP BREATHING))

Posted on October 21, 2014 at 1:02 pm 1

On Ditch the "To Do" List & Other Productivity Tips

@Marille Yup. Same with the "Only work on the deep things" -- okay, as soon as I finish the shallow things that have been assigned to me.

Posted on September 24, 2014 at 11:39 am 2

On Sleep Gadgets That Work?

I am hopelessly devoted to my drugstore sleep mask. Any old one can run you $3-4 but a good one is probably $8. I just sleep so much better in that artificial dark!

Posted on September 16, 2014 at 5:33 pm 0

On WWYD: Porn Star BF Asks Porn Star GF to Quit Work Because Love

Ester, I agree with you 1,000% here and I don't care that it is mathematically impossible. I was also baffled that this story appeared in Modern Love, because the sense I got from their relationship was not very romantic nor did she seem very dewy-eyed about him. I'm not saying that in itself spells trouble -- everyone expresses emotion in her own way -- but it left a bad taste in my mouth. (Besides, you would think if your boyfriend worked in porn he would be MORE understanding of your career in porn, not less.)

Posted on September 15, 2014 at 2:47 pm 1

On How Bad Does Your Landlord Have to Screw Up to Justify a Month’s Free Rent?

This happened to me when I was 22 and I had no idea that it wasn't normal for your landlord to leave a hole in your ceiling for weeks and weeks. They ended up putting back the insulation but not the whole ceiling panels, making each shower a little bit terrifying So, I say, get 'em for all you can, Josh!

Posted on September 2, 2014 at 5:25 pm 0

On How to Be a Boss Boss

Encourage learning opportunities from non-millennials around things they think millennials know best, like online tips and tricks. Don't let them off the hook with "Well, I'm too old to know this stuff"; apart from causing tension in the moment by calling attention to the difference, this also encourages dependency down the road.

Posted on September 2, 2014 at 10:38 am 0

On Surprise! Women Are Criticized More Personally in Performance Reviews

I had an old boss that based her reviews at least 90% on personality. She really wanted me to be friendly with her but was known to gossip, so I hesitated to get to know her too personally. If she thought we were getting along at review time, I was doing great! My point is, some of this must be able to be overcome with managerial training that says "Focus on work/ work products, not the nebulous personality stuff."

Posted on August 28, 2014 at 2:44 pm 0