Petition to make the op-ed writer's book about rich UES wives a Billfold Book Club selection. I know I will be reading it avidly (which, I guess, means the piece achieved its purpose). I am a single woman, breadwinner of myself, and yet something about the idea of a "wife bonus" and being totally out of the financial loop for a (hypothetical) family makes me want to go out and get 8 jobs just to prove I will always rely on myself. Surely I can't be the only one who feels this way?
On Cooking Time
What put me off of cooking originally still puts me off: It's so much work, and the work CONTINUES. You can prep ahead of time (and I often do), but when you have to make food, you have to keep making food... forever. And sometimes you make something that isn't that good, but it's okay, and you feel like you have to eat your semi-mistake because of all the time (and money) you put in. My personal compromise is that I always make and take my lunch to work by cooking/preparing all of them at the same time on Sunday. Breakfast is either a protein bar or a yogurt, and WHEN I feel motivated I cook dinner, and when I don't, I make something really easy. Pasta, eggs, tofu, some kind of really simple chicken thing, roasted or steamed veggies, done. Almost none of it Instagrams well! But I'm not malnourished and I'm not spending a ton of money. For now it'll have to do.
I haven't lived in New York for a little bit but this map is pretty flabbergasting. I did escape without paying 4-digit rent, which didn't seem like a feat then because all my friends were in the same boat, but is looking more impressive now. (I lived with roommates the whole time, as young people do.) As to one of your questions Nicole, I'm guessing rents hop up at 116th St because of the proximity to Columbia and how much students (and their parents, likely) will pay to stay closer. I used to live around there when I did live in Manhattan, and for a long time the area around Columbia's main campus was tightly gentrified and then only a few blocks over the neighborhood was seen as unsafe. Some of it is unsafe, or less safe, but the difference was very striking and the rents reflect that in part. Still, anyone looking for a deal by just going a few stops up is going to find it increasingly difficult.
Already had to argue with a man today who said "You can't pay everyone the same, that's not fair!" Also, not what Equal Pay Day means. Gah.
@Caitlin with a C Also, isn't taking the aisle an implicit promise that you won't sleep so deeply that you can't get up and let your seatmates off? I love the aisle (not for sleeping, just for mobility) and for that I tolerate getting up and letting my seatmates in and out. Only fair.
I would never have the cojones to just sit in someone else's seat and assume they would give it up for me. And I would definitely be less inclined to honor a request to switch from someone who did that! I don't even like asking to switch, to be honest. The last time I flew with my boyfriend we didn't get seats together (booked too late) and we just rolled with it. My seatmate was shocked that we hadn't tried to switch, but -- it's only 2 hours, and he was going to sleep the whole time anyway. Flying is just an exercise in conflict avoidance.
@Christy I hope you are traveling everywhere I am! Those middles are a hard sell.
@aetataureate Whoa, I think I had one of these a few years ago but I never knew this term.
@therealjaygatsby I don't blame you! it's a huge hassle. One thing that has really helped me is the website Zocdoc because you can see doctors by neighborhood, find the ones who actually take your insurance and do the bookings online so you don't have to call them. For me, the calling/ asking is always the worst part. On the downside, Zocdoc is fairly new so there might not be a ton of doctors in your area who use it.
@Stina Thanks for pointing out the chronic illness/ prescription angle. Whether I want to or not I need to check in every year to get my med calibrated. Kinda inconvenient but preventatively speaking, I have to believe it is doing some good. On the bright side, this has allowed me to form the kind of relationships with my docs that I can be candid about them and ask them questions about my non-serious condition and get real answers. But that is also a luxury of having good docs and health insurance.