@Leila@twitter Thank you for your graceful response. I think that the emotional toll that parental divorces take tends to come out sideways, and I myself am not exempt to this. I'm sorry to lash out at you. There are some universal aspects of being a grown child with parents divorcing. I do identify with your statements about parents not understanding the word "Enough", and attempts to get you to pick sides. You are very lucky that your school expenses are covered, and it is heartening that your parents did not drag that through the mud of their divorce. I think the hard part about reading your essay was the fact that the things you are adjusting to as a new lifestyle of belt-tightening reflect my whole life. I have always had to engage in cheap hobbies (yay, running) and pay for my own housing, food, etc. I am now facing the need to further cut corners. Hearing you express frustration at adjusting to that lifestyle in the second person is alienating at first, especially to someone like me who has lived that way my whole life. That being said, I do still empathize at the toll that adjustments can take, especially when it is not your actions that are causing the need for change.
I clicked into this article because my parents are going through a divorce right now, and I realize that their retirement savings will not support two households. I started a separate savings account secretly for that day when I know the requests for help are coming in (that is on top of paying back six-figure student load debt). I thought this article would be a great tome of knowledge to help me navigate this process, and do the best at the savings process I have just begun. Instead, I found the whining of a spoiled rich girl, upset because the maid is no longer around, and you have to *gasp* BUDGET for your trips abroad. This is not useful for any divorced child of the 99%.