Oh man, as someone about to take her 12 weeks of mat leave and then planning on returning to full-time office work, I have to say everything I hear about pumping makes me less than enthused. I really appreciate the honest look at the costs. My work does have a lactation room (...somewhere)but just the idea of hauling a pump to work every day, having to take breaks, having to store and schlep the milk...is formula really THAT much worse?
@Allison Ooh yes, Corso Comos are nice too! I also have a great pair of Indigo by Clarks pumps that are super-comfy while still looking professional - although they haven't held up as well as the Cole Haans.
Cole Haan Air Juliana black pumps. The ultimate in serious-business-lady attire. I looove these things. If you can find them on sale or at an outlet, totally buy them. They're the only pumps I can actually wear all day without my feet hurting! http://www.zappos.com/cole-haan-air-juliana-pump-75-black-patent?zlfid=191&ref=pd_sims_p_ab_1
This post basically just has me terrified of how, exactly, I'll manage when my 12 weeks of maternity leave is up. All the responsibilities, but with a 9-5 schedule...erk.
-Step 1: get another job offer from a different company at a higher salary -Step 2: Go to your boss and tell them you're leaving unless they meet/exceed the offer from the new company -Step 3: be prepared to make good on your threat and leave if they won't work with you I don't totally agree with this article - I think you're perfectly right to be irate. However, the above method is the only way I've ever been able to leverage a substantial increase. Companies get complacent, and basically won't make a move unless you hold them to the fire and threaten to leave. It's sad, but unfortunately my experience.
Right now, at 36 weeks pregnant, I'm delighted to get a seat on the subway (my commute is a 45 minute subway ride, with one switch midway). Although it's still surprisingly rare! I keep worrying I don't look pregnant "enough" or something.
Oh god, apartment brokers. The worst. The bait-and-switch they pull with CL listings is jaw-dropping. One broker got me into his office, and of couuuuurse the fantastic listing he'd posted on CL had "just rented." So, I told him I wanted a one-bedroom for less than $2500/month below 14th street. He nodded,and then showed me a studio in Hell's Kitchen. WTF. Even better was the broker who offered to show me his "exclusive listing" - which turned out to be an apartment I'd found the day before on CL and had already toured, which was definitely being rented directly by the previous tenant and not by any brokers. Basically, he wanted to charge me a fee for showing me a by-owner listing he found on Craigslist. Yeah, that would totally have been worth $2000, dude.
@Heather F G It was an AWESOME car. A 1965 Lincoln Continental convertible. Took our best pics posing next to and in the car -it was a real highlight! So, I don't feel as bad about it as I probably should :D And definitely true about the difference between "maxxed out" and "almost maxxed out" - those tiny bits of wiggle room are wedding lifesavers. Thanks so much for this article!
Worst unanticipated wedding expense: an out-of-town friend wanted to attend my wedding, but couldn't afford a hotel room. I breezily told her it wouldn't be a problem to just sleep over with me at my parent's house. I cleared it with my parents, and all was well. Until my dad, flipping out from the stress two days before the wedding, decided that any houseguests were FAR too complicated and he Would. Not. Have. Any. Guests. At. HIS. House. I asked him what to do, and he looked at me pointedly and said "looks like you need to get her a hotel room, I guess." Had no idea what to do - call my friend and tell her she couldn't come to the wedding, after I promised to make arrangements for her? Instead, I pulled out my sad little nearly-maxed-out credit card and booked a room for her at the same Hilton all the other guests were staying at, called her, and told her the hotel room was my treat. My very expensive, made-in-a-monent-of-stress treat. Ugh. Four years later and I'm still annoyed at my dad about it. I got revenge, though - I used his credit card to pay for the getaway car we rented and "forgot" to tell him about it. As he never brought it up, I guess we're even by now.
@ATF Honestly, if I got to live in the same building as the super-wealthy while paying substantially below-market rent, I'd feel awesome. Seriously, I would be more than willing to enter through whatever door they'd like if it meant I got to live in a multi-million-dollar high rise for the cost of a studio in Bushwick. I honestly think we're missing the fact that housing in NYC is off-the-charts, and this small handful of winners is getting a tremendous deal. Just because they have to walk an extra 20 feet to get to their Freshdirect concierge fridge while the rest of us struggle to make rent in the outer boroughs...again, it's just really not keeping me up at night. We desperately need more affordable housing available, and making this debate about the quality (which seems pretty excellent, despite the separate door) vs. the quantity of affordable housing seems like it's missing the real problem.