On Can Feminism and Breastfeeding Coexist, Take 2

After exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months I decided that I am pro-formula.

Posted on August 19, 2014 at 3:59 pm 1

On It Has Been Made Clear to Me That I Cannot Have It All

@Meaghano and of course NIPPLE CONFUSION. At 3am when my exhaustion made me hallucinate I was thrilled to recall all the "non judgey" articles I had read that basically said bottle feed = instant latch issues forever. Thankfully my kiddo seemed fine with whatev but damn was it stressful. I hope its better for you - sounds like you're doing great. It's tough stuff!

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 10:08 pm 0

On It Has Been Made Clear to Me That I Cannot Have It All

Oof. It's so so tough juggling all that you want to do and all that's expected of you as a mom in this day and age. As always, much of the struggle with "have it all" would be mitigated if this godforsaken country had paid maternity leave. A feminist cause if there ever was one.

Posted on August 18, 2014 at 12:59 pm 1

On The Massage Conundrum: WWYD?

Two at the known place! Also if I ever win a lottery or somehow gain literal millions, I would hire a full time masseuse to just follow me around and provide me massages at a whim. Of course they would be paid well and full benefits and all that. BUT ! on demand massages OMG.

Posted on July 31, 2014 at 11:55 am 1

On Concerning the Moral Obligations of the Wealthy

@Josh Michtom@facebook I am nearly double the median and I do NOT feel anywhere near comfortable. Damn my stupid county. Your second issue somewhat begets a question about defining real world benefit. Or, perhaps, what types of organizations/causes/etc would be tithe-able..

Posted on July 29, 2014 at 3:58 pm 0

On Concerning the Moral Obligations of the Wealthy

Aggh! These types of thought exercises keep me up at night. That aside, I do agree with your premise that after a certain point income demands charity. Perhaps a better way to structure an income “limit” may be median income by county and/or adjusted cost of living by county, (many states are far too varied, in my opinion). I would also increase it to 4x the median as the max. And then perhaps a person gets to decide a percentage (30? 50?) of where that surrendered/donated money goes, but that % decreases inversely to their income, preventing your original issue with the wealthy contributing to things that propagate.. themselves.

Posted on July 29, 2014 at 3:11 pm 0

On Our Attempt at a $20-a-Day Budget

@eatmoredumplings AGREED. That was a very judgeypants and rude response.

Posted on July 25, 2014 at 11:44 am 0

On Expenses Relating to My Wedding That I Couldn’t Possibly Have Anticipated

@ATF Yikes!! I would've had a minor panic attack or gone all Liam Neeson a la Taken. It's also alarming how much tailoring actually costs. I felt I had small adjustments but it still was around $500.

Posted on July 24, 2014 at 12:33 pm 2

On Expenses Relating to My Wedding That I Couldn’t Possibly Have Anticipated

Hmm. Everything? I distinctly remember a few late night sob sessions to my then-fiance about our assumed budget of $25,000. It felt like an absurd amount of cash. Actual cost: $45,000. Yay.

Posted on July 24, 2014 at 12:01 pm 1

On Concerning Eschewing Ivies and Raising Working-Class Heroes

Back in my halcyon days of youth I dated a few extremely wealthy men. And this: "you can’t cogitate your way to sympathy with people of different backgrounds" - is just painfully accurate. My middle class background was often a confusing and befuddling thought exercise for them.

Posted on July 24, 2014 at 11:20 am 0