My best friend was dating her BF for 7 years and after ages of him telling her "he would propose soon" she said fuck it and planned their wedding. He did eventually propose. My husband proposed but I knew it was coming. We had discussed it at length beforehand. He really wanted it to be a "surprise" and I was sorta like ..whatever. It was cliche and unsurprising and perfect.
@E$ You can do it!! It is tough as a woman who wants kids in this scenario. It really puts you in a corner. boo biology.
@ATF I love this! I wish this sort of joint agreement was the accepted cultural norm rather than the whole man-on-one-knee thing.
Many moons ago I worked in marketing (entry-ish level) and then bartended 1-2 nights/week. It was exhausting but also quite fun. The stress from the deadlines, demanding clients, and general corporate minutia dissipated after a few hours of running around making drinks. Highly recommend!
You probably can't divorce after a huge cheap wedding because you have no friends/family left after you forced them to attend your no-food-no-booze nuptials.
Fellow (long term) insomniac here! I had actually kicked it awhile ago by way of limited ativan and some Cognitive behavioral therapy. Unfortunately post-child it came roaring back. I am working on it again in therapy. Before you go the pills/therapy route, definitely try a few of the good suggestions above, specifically limiting screen time (use Flux!), and meditation. Good luck! Hopefully yours is a just an intermittent thing because chronic insomnia sucks.
@nell haha yay Portsmouth!! Also, so many cute boutiques. It's seriously the most perfect New England city (don't tell Boston I said that).
Hmm this sounds very similar to Portsmouth NH. Cute squares, oceanic views but close to mountains, beautiful streets/sidewalks, sorta hippie vibe, tons of coffee shops, lots of cultural events, and varying families and young professionals. I think you may need to pay slightly more however. I am only basing this on visiting the area a few times so I could be wrong!
My go-to response when people ask annoying questions about the location of my child is "oh, hes in the car/at home/don't know. I left him a bowl of water so he's fine." The first year-ish with my son was just so hard. And in a myriad of different ways. There are no guides either because the struggle is really unique per person/family. Be gentle with yourself.
On Fall Haul
Bought 2 sweaters, pants, a scarf, and two flannel-ish type shirts on Poshmark for $89 total (including shipping). I still want to get a couple more staples. I'll probably end up spending $120ish or so, $30 less than I budgeted. I may hit up TJ Maxx at some point, which will of course push me OVER my budget.