@@fo I'll agree some of the things she said were over the top. However, I knew NOTHING of this girl before a before this Bling Ring movie was all over the place. From watching that clip from her reality show and reading some of the old interviews with her, it seemed like she was in a really bad spot. Maybe not panhandling on the streets, but definitely dealing with addiction. I hope she's found some sort of peace.
I've never had an open office plan but when I first started working at my current job, I shared an office with another girl. Now I have my own office and I feel like I'm less productive. Even though my I spent some time talking to my former office mate, her presence held me accountable for staying on task. Now that I have my own space, there is no one to notice if I spend all afternoon looking at blogs and eating tootsie rolls. I think I would benefit from an open office plan as I obviously need someone to police my behavior.
This was a really interesting read. I actually feel a large level of sympathy for Alexis if all this is the truth. She admits to a lot of ugly truths in the articles which is really hard to do. Addiction is horrible and soul shredding and can make you do despicable things with seemingly no mercy. I'm glad she's found some sort of peace.
This is fantastic. I can really relate. I'm dealing with the recent loss of an unborn child and I am doing similar things. In the past week I have spent hundreds of dollars on a massage, a pedicure, and endless online clothes shopping. I should not be doing any of this with my minimal salary but clicking "order" is the only thing that keeps me from crying at my desk. I know things like this gets better over time, but it really sucks right now.
@Mae I got my a BA in Women's Studies in 2010. I know, I know. But like, bell hooks is my shit. I am now pursuing a Masters in Public Health. It was a tough road to get here. I didn't have the best grades in ungergrad and my first degree was in an "alternative" field. However, I spent 2 years working at a research institute (substance abuse and addiction studies) and did so much volunteer work that I basically had 2 jobs. When I finish my masters degree, I hope to continue addiction research via the National Institute on Health or National Institute on Drug Abuse. I never saw this path for myself when I was in undergrad, I figured I do a PhD in English or something (I had very little foresight at age 20)but I am glad that things are shaping up the way that they are. I have much better career prospects and earning potential has I not gone this route. All this being said, grad school is terrible and may make you want to end your life sometimes. However, for me it is a necessary step.
@MissMushkila We are living very similar lives. Good luck to you and your boyfriend. It's stressful to be the emotional supporter during the PhD process. It will not always be like this.
@Laurabean This is true. My fiancee is in the middle of a PhD in Physical Chemistry. He's got a tuition waver and a couple of fellowships so he is actually pretty comfortable to be living in a college that has dirt cheap rent. However, his program is STRESSFUL. 15 hour days in the lab, followed by all night study sessions for advanced quantum mechanics is a far cry from reading in your underwear while eating biscuits.
My boyfriend and I have had shared checking accounts almost the entire time we have been dating. At first I was kind of embarrassed to admit this to anyone lest they question my independence. However, we have fought about money exactly once in about 5 years and that was only because he was spending a bunch of money and had neglected to tell me it was because he got a raise at work. Also, we have saved so much more than I ever would have by myself.
@BornSecular My boyfriend and I combined our finances several years ago and it has worked out incredibly well. We have a joint checking and savings account. We do no maintain our own checking accounts,however, we have separate credit cards for discretionary spending within a few hundred dollars. The cards are paid from our checking account each month. We do not look at each other statements and do not ask any questions unless someone exceeded their allowance, which has never happened. This way he doesn't have to know I spent $200 on make up brushes and I don't have to know that he spent $100 on batteries. Everyone is happy, no fights!