Great bag! Kate Spade is great. Its expensive--but you really get what you pay for. Cole Haan is also a great brand for quality leather. I'm pro buying fewer purses of nicer quality. (Basically small, medium, and big--really all you need for any occasion.) Vintage is also a great resource but can require more work than sale shopping. Plus, another benefit of buying a leather purse is that your local cobbler/shoe repair guy can make some repairs for you. So in four years, if you notice that some stitching is coming undone, its a $12 repair instead of buying a whole new purse! If you don't want to pay for leather, I find that dark canvas bags will hold up for a year or two pretty well and can look very chic.
700 for a room in a 2 bedroom in Astoria USED to be realistic about 5 years ago. The neighborhood has since completely boomed and a lot of rooms in 3 bedrooms are now going for 800 or 950. However, I will also say (from experience) that Astoria landlords do not raise rent as aggressively as other landlords, so it is possible that Abbi has just been paying this rent for a while and that she got into the neighborhood early.
Did it bother anyone else that her way to survive on $70/week was often by stealing?
@Erica that is definitely the most alarming part of the story is the expectation of unpaid hours. Sometimes non profits will try to fit a full time job into a part-time job (and two full time jobs into one full time job, although that's often a salaried job). Its really problematic, unethical, and illegal. The rest of the story leaves me less concerned. It was advertised as a part-time job, which do not come with benefits in the non-profit world and would of course have a smaller salary as a result. I have worked and interviewed for part time jobs in the non-profit world and those employers were quite frank about the situation and wanted to make sure that I understood what the financials of each position were. At one point, I worked as a nanny to help compensate. If you want to work in the non-profit world, you find a way to make it work. The best way to make it work, is to live within your means but this can be difficult for someone who is used to a higher standard of living. I would say that in NYC the stand entry salary is in the low to mid-thirties, and so a part time job of 18-20 hours a week with a $15k salary is not unreasonable.
@artsypants I agree with you there. MOMA HR is weird. :)
@artsypants Interesting. Can I ask what your specialization is? I was raised by art historians and spent a brief period in my life doing admin work for a museum. Through that exposure, I've only seen the promotion happen post PhD (including one person who was an MA researcher for 10 years, defends her dissertation and poof! Assistant curator position offered). But then, maybe it depends on the field too? I think the actual reality is that it is a very difficult field. It can be a really rewarding field but its also a field where a qualified person can be passed over for a person with awesome connections.
I think you need some real talk. You didn't specify what your field was but it sounded curatorial because of the research. I'm really sorry to be this blunt BUT to do well in the curatorial world, you need a PhD. (Disagreeing with @artsypants) Yes, there are some older curators who are ABD or just MAs but most of those curators entered the system with different requirements, allowing them to make connections and publish to establish credentials. Yes, it sucks that the system now works this way but that is the deal. What is worse is that I have seen amazing PhDs get degrees from great schools, intern at the right places, get great fellowships and then not get jobs because there was one opening in their field that year. Its also important to note that the idea of the "gentleman curator" is still very very prevalent. Many leaders in their fields came from money/married into money and were able to support years of part time work and small salaries in order to wait for the big title. Is that wrong? Yes, but that doesn't change the reality. I think you should ask yourself what you really want. Is it that you want to be around art? Are there other ways to fulfill that goal with your current degree and for a full time job? @Artsypants suggested Development, and if you like researching and writing all day, you should consider grant writing. You already have the art knowledge for writing a grant, and you probably have great writing skills. Some really big museums also employ full-time researchers in their Development department to research foundations and prospective donors. These two roles could be a great way to utilize skills that you already have and provide you with full time employment. Museum Education is another field that could be great for you, although may require more people skills than you want. Since you are current working part-time, if you are interested in testing out these fields--you can! Try to get a part-time internship in one of these departments to build skills and see if you like the work. At the very least, having grant writing skills can only help you. These fields may not be as glamorous as curatorial work but are just as valid and crucial to the running of a museum. These jobs could also keep you around art and provide you with your museum id/get into other museums for free card, but also allow you to pay for rent on your own. You are not only made up by your job. Having a slightly less glamorous job does not take away any knowledge, passion, or hard work. What is the point of a dream job that does not pay you well enough to support yourself and does not make you happy? Isn't the point of working for a non-profit to be happy?
My parents used to live near a street that put out an MINDBLOWING Halloween decorations (like animatronic spiders crawling over their house) and so kids from all over the city would trick or treat in our neighborhood. My parents never cared about any extra kids, but they did care about teenagers who didn't bother to dress up except for a mask with a pillow case. I think that's fair. Side note: I can personally testify that the street with amazing decorations gave out the worst candy. Because SO MANY people would come, all the houses generally only gave out one tootsie roll each. My parents would buy 3 big bags from Sams Club and would generally run out by 8:30 or so.
@TheDilettantista @Ester Bloom High Holiday tickets in the NYC area are crazy and primarily how these synagogues pay their bills. However, you can always try calling them and play the young person card. Depending on the movement, many of these schuls are THRILLED that young people want to attend services without the pushing of their parents. Especially in the NYC area, where there are so many synagogues to choose from, its worth doing some research to see what you can get. At the same time, if you can afford to support an institution that you like, that is a wonderful thing.
Lord Peter Whimsey is awesome! Although, most of the awesomeness comes from Bunter and Harriet Vane, a Blue Stocking who lived with a married man before Whimsey met her.