@DickensianCat @redheaded&crazy FREECYCLE. Find out if there is a freecycle listserv in your area. People will take anything. I have seen half bottles of shampoo and perfume offered up many times.
I grew up in an area where there were a good number of mormon kids in my high school. I was aware that a lot of them were well off and I do remember that one girl's family seemed to have a lot less money than the others, but I don't know (or can't remember now) what her parents did for a living. I'd really like to know more about how they all manage it, with so many kids and having to give 10% of their income to the church. I wonder if mormon families seem to be disproportionately wealthy because the wealthy are the only ones who can afford to be mormon? Or maybe it's that the religious community helps provide support and make connections so that people can become wealthy more easily? Despite the church owning all these properties and businesses it's not like they can employ every single mormon, right?
@lalaland I was literally reading this post and thinking "I hope someone puts a link in the comments to a bunch of Mormon blogs." So thanks!
@sony_b ugh yes. I learned a big lesson from it at least? Even if I didn't decline I should have spoken up during the process and said I couldn't afford some of the things. I couldn't help thinking (since I had also been married in the not so distant past) that as a bride if I had seen my bridesmaids taking on all these expenses I would have stepped in and put a stop to it one way or another.
I was a bridesmaid in two semi-problematic weddings last year. The first I was thrilled to be in and it was in Vegas, and I was really happy to go there since I had never been before. The problem was the couple decided to move the date up by 6-8 months putting it right in the middle of an insanely expensive time in my life when I had a lot of other things going on. However, if I had it to do over again I would definitely still go because it was worth adding a little debt to be there for my friends and to have a crazy fun time in Vegas. The second wedding...I really should have declined the invitation to be a bridesmaid because I felt like I didn't know the girl well enough. But I felt guilty because I knew if she was asking me she didn't have many friends and considered me to be a close friend. I also didn't think it could really be all THAT expensive. This ended up being the most expensive wedding I have ever been in in my life. Every other wedding I have participated in (or even heard about!) the bride's family has contributed to the shower expenses if not covered them completely. This bride's family basically refused and I was forced to split it with the other two bridesmaids (venue, food, decorations, and drinks for about 25 people). Then I had to travel to and pay for the bachelorette as well. The bridesmaids dresses were $300, plus plane tickets and hotel for me and my husband to attend the actual wedding. It was a disaster and I completely regret it!