@meatcute Also, I'll add my acupuncturist (who I love) accurately predicted the sex of my baby based on my pulses. Crack science? Lucky guess? ANCIENT CHINESE WISDOM? Who knows?
Go for it! I had acupuncture periodically throughout my pregnancy, and went twice or three times before the end. Also did the whole primrose oil thing. Sex was not so much happening because the 8 1/2 pound baby I was carrying did not make for comfortable sex, sadly. Hang in there through these last few days! I ended up being three days late — not bad in the big scheme of things, with a first pregnancy. I don't know if acupuncture helped, but it certainly didn't hurt, and I was amazed at how active my little guy got during the sessions; clearly something was going on. At the very least it can be a really lovely way to relax and chill out for an hour during your last days of pregnancy.
@meatcute "If she wants to pursue a career I am all for that. She should believe that if we can afford for her not to work, then daycare is out of the question for our children. Dishonesty is a major pet peeve of mine. If you tell lies, you're wasting your time here. Obviously she should like most of the things I like because we would be doing them together for the next sixty years." I'm hoping this is some kind of elaborate performance art. The headshots certainly LOOK like stock photos...
Oh, how I wish I hadn't fallen down the 10k4awife.com rabbit hole!
@lolapie Amen, sister. I loved my midwives. LOVED THEM. In fact, I was sort of sad when it was all said and done that, after my six-week follow up, I didn't have an excuse to go visit them every few weeks anymore.
I love Budget Bytes — and have cooked some seriously tasty meals inspired by her recipes — but I have to confess: I can't bring myself to buy budget groceries. Buying dried beans and cooking them at home? Sure. Baking my own bread? Absolutely! Popping popcorn on the stovetop instead of buying pricy potato chips for snacktime? Yum. But I'm a food snob. I don't know if I should try to change that or not... but buying organic veggies and locally, humanely-raised meat is really important to me. I'm curious if anyone has tips about being budget savvy while also indulging in some of those areas. Frankly, I often find myself thinking that food SHOULDN'T be cheap; we spend less of our incomes on food than at any other time in American history, and the costs get shifted to other places. Ugh, I sound obnoxious, I know...
@Meaghano Definitely go for a diaper service if you have access and can swing it! (We live in the sticks, in the grayest state in the country; so old people + low population density means, no diaper service here. I was bummed.) Another option that a few friends of mine have done is disposables for the first few months — while baby is growing like a weed — and then settling in to cloth three or four months later. There are some great services out there where you can essentially "rent" a package of cloth diapers (I think Jillian's Drawers had one, but I bet you could find something local in NYC) to see which kinds you prefer. I highly, highly recommend prefolds and covers, though, just for ease of care, cheapness, etc.
Congratulations! My little fellow is seven months old, and yes, they're pricey! (Still paying off that $5,000 deductible... and probably will be until he's 2. :((( ) Here's the good news: They really don't need much in the first few months. A few outfits (you'll be doing laundry a ton anyways, so you don't need THAT many options). Swaddling cloths. So many burp cloths. SO MANY BURP CLOTHS. A good carrier. Some advice: Don't buy any baby stuff now, at all. Chances are, you'll get so much from friends and family. A lot of what you might feel compelled to buy now you'll later realize you don't need, or never use. Whatever you do, don't buy any clothes. Those you'll DEFINITELY get. Find a good used clothing or consignment store for later on, when the tiny adorable newborn clothes no longer fit. If you're trying to get a sense of what you DO need, I really recommend Lucie's List. And if you're on the fence about cloth diapers... go in with an open mind. I love love love not having to buy disposables. We got kind of obsessed with our cloth diapers when we realized how much more effective they were at catching that runny newborn poop — seriously only ever had blowouts in disposables. You can get some pretty affordable set-ups (I did prefolds and Thirsties covers), and a lot of cloth diapers have great resale values. I buy disposables occasionally for convenience, vacations, etc., and every time I lay down $10 or $20 for something that goes in the trash, I cringe. But I do have a washing machine, and depending on your NYC set up, that could be a deal breaker. You're in for such an adventure! The best possible kind. Good luck these last few months!
@la_di_da I have to wonder the same thing. I won't dive into the numbers now, but isn't the beauty of compounding interest such that what we save now (in our 20s and 30s) magically turns into mucho mucho money by the time we want to retire? I'm one of those humanities majors, and I don't doubt that my soft skills have made, and will make, me marketable to employers. But I'm skeptical that an extra $2k a year when I'm middle-aged will make up for the big differences now.
@ifwecantaloupe That's an interesting idea! I'm about to have a baby, and I could see the convenience of either ordering in groceries in the days after the baby is born — or arranging something similar as a gift for a friend after an illness, birth or surgery. That said, I can't imagine using this in any kind of normal circumstances. Especially when it comes to produce, I like being able to pick and choose based on what looks the freshest in the store.