It has been very nice to read the recent string of people openly talking about depression and trying to work it all out. I am very similar to Logan in that being my own boss can be harder than having a boss. I've found that a good way to cope is to trick yourself into thinking the same way that you have with a retail job. For instance, pick a coffee shop, or restaurant, or library, or even rent a studio space, or go to a friend's house, anywhere but home. Set your alarm clock, and make yourself get up and out, as if you were going to work there. Because you are going to work there. Once you've gotten in the habit of treating it like a job you can get fired from, it becomes easier to do on a day-to-day basis. You have to allow yourself Guilt-Free "sick days" or "mental health days" just like any other job, too. (Reduce the amount of obligations if you can't take the entire day off.) It's incredibly important, and easy to communicate.
This is the sort of drivel we should expect when we live in a culture that equates wealth with happiness. He thinks money should make him happy and if he's not happy (ie living a life free of anxiety or worry) then he must not have enough money. Meh.
DAMN IT I just accidentally deleted my comment! Let's try again. Logan, what type of treatment are you undergoing for your depression right now? Because it sounds like you should either seek treatment if you haven't already, or if you are in treatment, switch up your meds or your therapist or both. I recently came out of a depression pretty quickly with the help of the right therapist and right medication. I've transitioned off the medication now and will continue to go to talk therapy. I plan to be in therapy for the rest of my life, and will absolutely go back on medication if I get depressed again. It's awesome that you work with Mike and he's understanding, but if you continue to not do your job it's going to negatively affect your relationship and your career. And using your depression as an excuse is a bit of a cop out if you're not actively trying to manage it. If you are actively managing your depression, please ignore this, and I hope you find something that works soon. I don't want to sound harsh, and I'm sorry if I do. Please keep in mind that this is coming from a fellow anxious depressed person with impulsive spending problems and the consumer debt that goes along with that.
Thumbs up to everything about this post, but seriously: THAT VIDEO IS THE. BEST. THING. EVER. Mr. Biscuit!!!!!!!!
I actually think Logan had the right approach with that interview -- just letting him speak for himself, to dig his own hole if you will. If she had confronted him more directly, I think he would've become defensive, and I suspect his defense strategy would be to concede some smaller points while still holding fast to the big one (Dude, Yr Rich.) That said, I hope the negative reactions in the comments (which I agree with -- the only reason I didn't comment wasn't I would have just been piling on) don't scare off potential Rich People interview subjects, or result in only very apologetic and self-aware Rich People coming forward. I think one of the really important things this site does is present a lot of different perspectives on money, and if it were all just people in their 20s with liberal arts educations trying to Make It In the Big City the site would be much more boring and less special.
By stuffisthings on Open Thread
Whoa so apparently I just got approved for a $1,000 bonus. I found out about this shortly after deciding to pay back our Head Boss some money ($35) I owed him from when we were traveling that he surely had forgotten about. KARMA WORKS Y'ALL.
@Caitlin with a C Yes, I am terrified about the potential costs of parental care. My mother and her husband definitely have plans to take care of themselves if anything goes wrong/in retirement. My dad doesn't, is in debt, and he completely supports his husband financially. If he were suddenly unable to work, I worry that I'd be responsible for taking care of at least him, and while that's daunting enough, I worry about whether I'll be expected to take care of his husband (who does not have children), and also I absolutely positively could not give them a life at the standard they currently live at - I can't even come close to affording that for myself. This is scary to me. I wonder if there's anyone the Billfold can tap who can write about helping out parents who are used to living larger than they themselves do? Or just in general about having to support their parents, how they planned for that, etc. Mike has written some about himself, but his parents are still living independently and (if I recall correctly) still working, too.
@3jane Yeah, I am trying really hard to be fair to him - because I think he has tried to be very balanced when talking about his own situation - but his use of words like "average" made me actually gasp out loud at how out of touch he seemed, saying things like that. BUT! The Billfold is showing us a different perspective and I really value that!
Holy moly. ... ... That is all.
By stuffisthings on Open Thread
@Bill Fostex Dude, you're sitting on a goldmine. Now you can literally write about whatever you want, so long as you include at least one picture of Mr. Biscuit.