Is it cheating to be one of those dudes who doesn't help cook and doesn't help clean and spends the whole day sitting on the couch watching football while a bevy of women and girls create a lovely meal for him?
@crenb When those dude bros talk about "female privilege," I think they typically mean "women whom I want to screw who are not interested in having sex with me." They're not talking about, like, the 95% of the female population whom they don't currently want to screw and therefore don't consider important.
Ok, that's interesting, because I met a guy yesterday who had celiac and said that the hardest place to be gluten free was in Boston, because there were tons of people there who were gluten-free because it was trendy, not because eating wheat gave them terrible neurological symptoms, and they weren't concerned about whether their gluten-free products were truly gluten-free. He kept eating supposedly-gluten-free stuff that actually had gluten in it. He said that it's easier to avoid gluten in the town where I currently live, where there is some awareness of celiac but not a lot of trendy gluten-free stuff. Here, when things say they're gluten-free, they're generally not going to have issues with cross-contamination.
I used to live in Hyde Park, a fairly rich neighborhood on the South Side of Chicago that borders a lot of not-rich neighborhoods. There's a particular block there, on Harper between 58th and 59th, where people go completely nuts decorating their houses for Halloween and then announce that anyone is welcome to come trick or treat. Kids come from all over the South Side, and it's a blast. Maybe the letter writer just needs to adjust her attitude and see it as a community event, the way people on Harper do.
@Marille Yes, there is a sad absence of Ikea in Iowa. I think the closest one is in Minneapolis. On the other hand, there is a Trader Joe's in West Des Moines, so civilization is slowly making its way here.
@Marille There are Amish people in Iowa! They're not that close to Des Moines, but you could get to Kalona in two hours or so.
I moved on August 1st, and it jolted me out of my squalor. My apartment was really kind of gross after you took everything out of it. I don't know if I can keep it up, but I've been cleaning everything thoroughly every Saturday morning: swiffing the ceiling fans and throwing out anything gross in the fridge and wiping down all the surfaces and scrubbing the tub and everything. I truly hate mopping my kitchen floor, but I love being able to walk around barefoot without my feet feeling gross. On the other hand, I don't have a baby. If you have a baby, I think you should be provided with some extremely efficient and professional baby specialist who will come over and take care of all your household tasks, like the French do. Another thing that has helped me clean: realizing that bleach gives me a migraine. I think maybe I avoided cleaning because I associated it with getting sick afterwards. Now that I don't use anything with bleach in it, the thought of cleaning doesn't make me so queasy.
Yeah, online shopping is the reason that I don't have to drive four hours each way to get a bra that fits. For those of us who don't live in or near big cities, it's a complete lifesaver. There's just a whole lot of stuff that isn't available within realistic driving distance of me.
I recommend moving to a college town in a state in which less than 0.2% of the population is Jewish. Hillel and Chabad are the only games in town, and they're free.
@doodlebug That's exactly what I was thinking. If all that this service offers is a website and some screening of potential members, then there's no reason that cleaners couldn't get together and cooperatively provide the same stuff themselves.