@TheDoctorsCompanion "But then I think about what happens when the parents can’t even afford college. In NY child support goes till your 21, does this mean children can sue for things their parents don’t even have?" That's a different issue, because if your parents are willing to fill out a FAFSA and can't pay, then you're eligible for need-based student aid. The issue is for students whose parents could pay but won't. Except in very limited circumstances, the parents' income is still taken into account for financial aid purposes and those students aren't eligible for need-based aid until they're 24. The reason that the financial aid system works this way is that a whole lot of parents would refuse to pay otherwise, but it does mean that some students end up completely SOL. And this is not an especially egregious example of that phenomenon. Some parents refuse to pay for college because their kid comes out of the closet or starts going to the wrong church.
I did well enough on the SATs to be a national merit finalist, and I think it's a stupid, stupid question. Also, SAT scores correlate closely with parents' income, so it tends to favor applicants from privileged backgrounds.
Oh, and I have been craving pizza all day, and that article didn't help.
@LookUponMyWorks See, I think he does have an eating disorder, and it sounds like he kind of knows it. He's seeing a therapist about it. He would like to be able to go to a restaurant that doesn't serve pizza, and he can't. I think that he's sort of developed a way of talking about it that normalizes it, but I don't think it's normal, and I feel bad for him.
I'm a breakfast eater. I know lots of people don't like breakfast, but I get really cranky at around 10:00 if I don't eat something first thing in the morning. I like to make baked oatmeal on Sunday and then eat it every morning for the rest of the week. This week I made Budget Bytes' apple pie baked oatmeal, which is yummy and cheap. The only problem is that it's so yummy that I have to resist the temptation to eat it when I get home from work.
I took one. I didn't finish it but did complete enough to get the certificate. I really enjoyed it, and I thought I learned a lot, but I think it's completely ridiculous to think of them as a replacement for college. They're more like a replacement for continuing ed, like the non-credit bike repair class that I took at the local community college.
@zb The thing is, it took a fair amount of complaining to my friends before I thought "you know what, this really is messed up, and I should stop complaining to people who can't fix it and talk to the people who have some say." It was hard to talk to the party folks about it: it meant revealing that I was in a really different financial position than they all are and assume their members to be. Before I did that, I needed confirmation that it really was a problem and reassurance that I wasn't going to be making a fool out of myself if I raised it. I think that complaining is often a precursor to taking more effective action, and a culture of righteous non-complaining has the effect of ensuring that legitimate issues never rise to the surface.
One the one hand, I see where you're coming from, and I think a lot of people whine endlessly in situations where they should just shut up and deal. On the other hand, if people never discuss or acknowledge the things that they don't like about the organizations they're members of, then they can't really change those things. And sometimes things need to be changed. I could righteously non-complain about the fact that my local Democratic party holds almost all of their events at venues that aren't accessible by public transit, and I could have chosen not to be involved in local politics when I wasn't able to get to their meetings. But complaining made them aware of the problem, and now they at least have a note on their website that invites would-be participants to contact them if they need a ride to a meeting. So which is better: me getting to feel smug about being a righteous non-complainer, or an important local institution making some small steps towards being more inclusive?
A friend of mine is a teacher at an expensive private school, and she says that the whole Christmas gift thing makes her really uncomfortable. It hammers home the financial divide between her and the kids' parents, and sometimes it feels like bribery. She says that she would really prefer small, handmade, token type gifts to the extravagant stuff she sometimes gets. I work at a public university, and I'm not allowed to accept gifts that are worth more than $3. I don't think I've ever received a Christmas gift from a student, but I do sometimes have to turn down gifts that students try to give me after I've written them recommendations. I totally appreciate the spirit of the rule, but I wish they'd either publicize it more widely or raise the limit a little bit. The only thing more awkward that being given an overly-generous gift is having to turn down a gift because you estimate it cost $7.50 instead of $3.
Huh. I hated my cable and internet provider so much that I canceled my cable, got AppleTV and subscribed to Hulu Plus and Netflix, and switched to a different internet service provider. Now they call me several times a week to ask me to come back. If they don't mind that I hate them, they've got a weird way of showing it!