Hi Sarah. Thank you for sharing your story - that takes so much courage. I can understand the pain - I lost a significant other to suicide over two years ago and am still working on every day, and I've never had the courage to write about it like you have. It sounds like you are doing really healthy things – therapy, classes, activities, and already starting to slow down the uncharacteristic spending, which is a great accomplishment. It's also okay to rely on friends to get you through this time – they’ll be there for you, regardless of whether you can buy rounds or dinner. All that said, money is important and necessary, but it's not as important as life and living. Celebrate surviving each day without Chris and appreciate every moment you feel better, even if there are many where you still feel terrible. One day you'll finish the day and realize that you had more good hours than bad ones. When that happens, you celebrate some more, and then you also forgive yourself for feeling happy even though he's gone. Please keep us posted on how you are. There are a lot of people rooting for you, friends and strangers alike.
Sprint and British Airways. Any company that requires you to re-sign contracts multiple times or costs you money out of your own pocket due to their idiocy and lousy websites (I'm not even talking compensation for errors, but just normal service) is the worst. Sprint is the WORST.
Aww, Mike, please go to the dentist! I hadn't been in over a year, either, for your same reason, and I just went, and even though I didn't have cavities, nothing hurt, and I floss every day, she told me I have gum disease and might have to have surgery. I had to go back three times for deep cleaning and again in another month. It's cheaper if you just go now, and the news will only get worse if you wait.
Friday - my boyfriend and I took his parents and brother out to a nice dinner. I hadn't seen them in a while, and it was a fun meal. He and I split the bill - $79 each Saturday - helped a friend move, so she bought all my meals! I had an iced coffee before I started - $3 - but she gave me $3 more than what she owed me for lunch, so total: $0 Sunday - Bought the week's groceries - $72. Had steamed crabs with friends - $25. Total: $176
On 'No Ticket!'
Mike, I know what you mean! I rode the subway in Vienna with an expired subway pass (from the day before), and I was totally scared the entire time. I figured I'd just plead ignorance, since I was in a foreign country. Then one time I actually didn't know I was supposed to validate it (I think I was in Italy) and I almost got kicked off the train. The stress is not worth it; I have resolved to just pay it like a law-abiding, non-cheap citizen.
Yay, these comments and suggestions are great. One thing I do - I give myself a cash allowance for the week for lunch if I eat out, happy hour drinks, little incidentals, and buying whatever. One thing I do with this - if I think about buying something but decide not to - say a coffee - I take that $3-4 and put it into this jar I have. The jar is full of change and random bills I just throw in there when someone treats me to a drink or I don't purchase something, or I win $2 on a lottery scratch off, whatever's left at the end of the week, loose change, etc. I emptied my jar last week (after three months) of shoving bills in it, and not even counting the coins, it had $125! I'm super excited about this, since it's money I didn't notice much before, and now I can put it toward either something fun I'm saving for (a trip to see a friend), or expensive random purchases I always forget to save for, like wedding or Christmas gifts. I also have random places (both physical and online) I have money - my jar cash is all in one place in my room, and my cash-back rewards for my credit card are sitting there online, waiting to be redeemed. I find a lot of pleasure in making plans to spend that money on something awesome.
I love your posts and website and I love eating out and stracciatella! Hang in there, it will get easier!