@HelloTheFuture I didn't use the term with any sketchiness in mind, just, yeah, like how the YMCA is a hotel too. They probably retrofitted the bathrooms in your place but it explains the lack of kitchen.
It has the same "this is where the Murphy bed went" look of a lot of Chicago's studio apartments -- probably all descendents of the same boarding-house cultures.
@Erica Well . . . Right, again, family issues are different from "there's a cash bar and we expect you to cover your plate" or "this wedding is outdoors with no bathrooms or seating" or "you're only invited to the reception"
@eatmoredumplings Not family specifically, but a wedding should kind of be all about your guests? Like otherwise don't have a wedding.
@Jake Reinhardt Oh buddy! I hope you're right about your person, what a terrific thing if so. Also, whatever, talk about it whenever you want. A partner worth a darn isn't going to get spooked by a 35-year-old person explaining that she wants things.
@bowtiesarecool Everybody do pizza their own way. I endorse it all.
Have a huge, cheap wedding but be ready for everyone you know to talk about how bad it was forever.
We have toaster ovens in our big office kitchen, and people will debate the best ways to reheat pizza -- toaster oven here, cast-iron pan at home, etc. And all I want is hot, mushy microwaved pizza. My favorite!
To me it's like the avalanche method. Get your relatively easier victories in first and build momentum. Any new civil rights are new civil rights for us all, really.
Oh man, this IS so fascinating -- thanks. Especially the analogy about cooking for a living versus for your loved ones.