@Catastrophe Waitress I'm from Florida and so is my mom; my dad is from Ohio. My husband is from sort of all over (born in the Northeast to parents from the Northeast, grew up in the Midwest, went to high school and college in the South) and he also never really realized that this was a "thing." I saw it on a message board online somewhere and immediately felt shame and started doing it.
Okay, it is only within the past few years that I realized that you should tip hotel cleaning staff. I *never* saw my parents do it when we stayed in hotels (maybe they did do it and I never noticed?) so I never realized it was something one should do. I am not debating that it *should* be standard but when *did* it become standard? My parents are not cheap and not rude (they tend to be big tippers at all other things because they can afford it), so to think they'd be intentionally breaking this sort of "be nice to people" rule is surprising to me. The last time my husband and I stayed at a hotel we had a bad experience where the person who cleaned our room took the tip we left for them but only halfway cleaned the room - the trash cans were empty but left in the middle of the room, the bed was unmade, no towels had been left, etc. We found a cleaning staff member in the hallway outside our room and mentioned this fact and she got a little belligerent: she flatly accused us of lying and said that our room hadn't been attended to yet. And she remained rude when we said "Uh, well, the trash has been emptied and that $5 tip we left on the dresser is suspiciously missing..." She got a little stammery after that. We ended up going to the front desk to ask for someone else to clean our room the other nights, because we were so freaked out over being accused about lying (weird). That was a really weird experience re: hotel cleaning folks and left an odd taste in my mouth.
Ester tell your friend to go to here: http://www.sajawedding.com/ Their store is in NoLiTa. I wore one of these babies to my wedding and I was so happy and comfortable and I felt beautiful and the shopping experience was so easy and it was wonderful the end.
@dotcommie OMG why did they let you push her out if she was the wrong way? Isn't that when the doctors do a C-Section? I thought that's what C-Sections are for.
...This still makes me not really want to breastfeed. I am going to be a horrible mother should that day ever come, oi. But thank you for sharing this was all incredibly informative. (Seriously how did you get black eyes from labor? Eesh).
I don't understand "I fell asleep during Guardians of the Galaxy because it was just that boring." Who are you and what do you find entertaining? "Guardians of the Galaxy" is the opposite of boring. THERE IS A TALKING HOMICIDAL RACCOON VOICED BY BRADLEY COOPER.
@Meaghan O’Connell The main reason we were not breastfed is because my mother went back to work very quickly. She’s an attorney and when she started at her firm (the firm she is still at I should note) she was the only lady attorney (now the firm is nearly half lady attorneys, progress!). Breastfeeding was also much less of a “thing” in the 80s I think. But I know that “I have to go to work and meet with clients and be an attorney, I can't see clients with a baby attached to my boob” was a huge part in the decision making process. Now she’s one of the most senior attorneys at said firm and has been managing shareholder a number of times. But we also had a full-time live-in nanny as a kid (dad's an attorney too), so, who knows. You can have it all, I guess, if you can afford full-time live-in help. =( So yeah, I don’t know. A coworker of mine at my previous job had a baby and came back to work riiiight before I left. The two weeks we overlapped before I left she barely got any work done because she had to pump like, every two hours. It was driving her crazy. So maybe you are right, feminism + breastfeeding = hard or maybe even impossible. Ungh. =(
My take away is that breast feeding is hard and time-consuming and, should I ever happen to produce a child, I shouldn't do it. Because you are tethered to a schedule vs. "here's a bottle with formula I can make and feed the baby immediately no boob required." Note: neither my sister nor I were breastfed, and we are both incredibly healthy and intelligent and are getting along in the world just fine. My take away could also be residual annoyance at #worldbreastfeedingweek on Facebook which left me really irritated at how self-congratulatory a certain set of breastfeeding mothers has become (Not you Meaghan, I get that that wasn't the point of this post at all and didn't read any self-congratulation in the subtext, just a lot of hard reality). I don't care if mothers breastfeed in public, do whatcha gotta do for your kid, but why do you need to post selfies of it on Facebook?! I get that breastfeeding is a good and maternal thing but it is also natural and people have been doing it forever, much like pooping, and you don't see me posting photos of myself on the toilet with two thumbs up like, "look at what i just did," do you? Blargh. Anyways, good luck, it will get easier some day, I hope, maybe when the baby is weaned? Or like, in college? But appreciate these missives regardless, it is good reading for those of us who have yet to make the baby trek. On that note, would love a Billfold article on baby feeding expenses, both breastfeeding vs. not breastfeeding and then what happens when the little buddy starts eating solid foods.
My husband and I (well, technically just me, because only my name is on it for various reasons including the fact that my husband has been a student the last two years and has not worked) just bought a car. A new Ford Focus. On the one hand YAY NEW CAR. On the other hand OMG THAT WAS SO HARD AND WOW WE WILL BE PAYING MONEY FOR A LONG TIME and I am exhausted but I believe we got a really good deal considering the car and the amount of fun things it has (IT HAS LIGHT UP CUPHOLDERS but I didn't realize this until I drove it away). The end.
Real talk about that student thing at NYU: My husband just graduated from the dental hygiene program at UNC Chapel Hill, and during his time he worked very closely with lots of dental students and graduate dental students. Student dentists (and dental hygienists) are VERY closely screened by their professors and are rarely allowed to make a move without having it approved. So don't frown upon student care -- it is often much cheaper but just as good as what you'd get in a normal office and, sometimes, even better because the students have to meet exacting standards and specifications laid forth by the faculty. I can't speak to NYU's school, but from everything my husband told me about UNC, it was an incredible program that provided top-notch care--even from the students--to anyone who visited. Including people who were in for root canals.