@ronswansonluva I guess for me, it was less learning about the habits/quirks themselves and more learning about my actual reaction to them on a day to day basis, if that makes sense.
@Derbel McDillet as I make super obvious typos in my own comment. Sigh.
@ThatsMyOtter I totally agree that identified, explicit, agreed-upon goals can make a huge difference in bringing together people with disparate spending styles. And it's good "team building" for the relationship.
I loved this. The comments, thought. Why oh why did I read the comments?
@lisaf I totally remember Brian and Lisa! And the couple that was trying to move away from Atlanta. And Logan. Good times, good times. Mr. McDillet and I have been together 10 years now (married 8)and have pretty different spending styles, but we seem to have rubbed off on each other enough that we're both pretty close to center now. If it weren't for him, I'd be at Smaug levels of money hoarding, and he would be broke, and we both recognize that, so it works out.
@lisaf I loooove researching future actual purchases (getting a new car this year, whoot!). My aspirational searches tend to focus around vacation properties. Cabin further in the woods or tiny beach house? Probably neither, but it's fun to look!
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@garli We combined bank accounts before we were married, too, pretty early into the relationship. We both had "this is my person" feelings early, so it didn't really feel like a big deal at the time (also, I was like 23 and making less than $15k a year, so maybe it wasn't really a big deal).
@Clare K. R. Miller I've always heard that a lot of people are allergic to mango skin. I wonder if there was a little bit of skin hanging on?
@TheDilettantista I am all about the weekly dinner menu, but that's mostly because I love making lists and menu planning is the perfect list-making excuse. This week we're having (list ahoy!): -Homemade Pizza -Venison Tacos -Creamy Spinach Pasta -Slow Cooker Black Bean Soup -The rest of the Homemade Pizza (the dough lasts a while in the fridge)