Two schools of thought on this from a serial procreator - 1) If you are buying books/tools/objects in hopes of being a better parent, congrats - you are probably already a better parent then most who spawn. 2) You can't buy your way to good parenting. Your kid can be in the best safety seat in the most well-researched SUV, and sleeps at night on a safe foam bed after brushing their teeth with a Sonicare Jr. toothbrush. However, if you are the ineffective twit who lets their kid run around at Starbucks while you lose yourself in your cell phone....no amount of capital investment can make you a good parent.
@PumpedUpDogs I was offering a counter-point. Despite what some would like to tell you, having kids young is not a death sentence to happiness.
@olivia Not judgey. Its just that I read this narrative over and over, and frankly, there isn't something new being offered here. There is a value judgment here on her part that marathon entries and writing classes are better on the "having it all" spectrum than school meetings or kid's soccer games. First, these things aren't mutually exclusive, and second, it depends on one's definition of "having it all". Considering how much she name checks certain brands, she seems just as obsessed as the wealthy stay-at-home moms she derides.
I had a kid young, just post-college. It made me more focused, and in some ways, is the best blessing professionally I could ever have. Our family broke that income barrier at 27. If you don't want to have a kid, this is fine. More room on the playground. But to characterize them as an impediment to "having it all" is a disservice to all of those that had kids, and put in the hours to advance their education and career. Frankly, it smacks of the self-satisfied smugness of the child-free movement.
"Both students want to study education." Gah! Aim Higher!
@notpollyanna Oh good lord, Shimer. Glorified babysitting for rich people's kids who don't have to worry about finding their own way/careers.
Being somewhat familiar with the area, I can also highlight the fac that just across the border from these communities is Indiana, and the towns there are primarily white. These towns also have problem bringing in a Whole Foods and a Trader Joe's and other upscale retail. The reason given is that there is not enough educational attainment to reach these. All of thse communities also sit smack dab in between the retail corridors of Joliet, Tinley Park, and NW Indiana/Schererville...maybe spacing matters here.
Universities need to be required to provide a disclosure to prospective students that will be taking out loans to finance their education. This needs to be(broken out by major): -How many students graduate within four years -The average and median salaries of those grads 1, 3, 5, and 10 years out -The average student debt load at those points -What tuition rates have been hiked up by in the last five academic years -What debt load would be for said student's prospective loan package, broken out in what the payment would be like. If we want truth in mortgages, credit cards, and auto loans, we need to break down the first major financial decision of many people's lives in as simple of terms as possible. Maybe even then, we will see some healthy competition among schools.
Oh, it will be a fun day when the CPS rank-and-file can Karen Lewis.