people like to paint MMM as some kind of smug self-satisfied bastard who's screaming at everybody telling them they're doing it wrong. but, if you actually read his work, you will see that's not what he's doing at all. he's simply sharing his experience, like so many people on this site do. he's not saying "everyone should be like me" but more something like "hey i figured out some useful shit that may help you reach your goals." the face punches, the swearing, all that stuff is just stylistic. he's actually got quite the moderate, eco-conscious, happiness-creating philosophy. you should read more about it before you dismiss it. and what is up with all the sour grapes in this discussion? as MMM is fond of saying, if he comes across someone who does something way better than him, he's going to TAKE NOTES, not bitch about why he can't possibly do the same thing. the idea is to get inspired and to do what you can, saving money and becoming a more badass and much happier person in the process. yes, we need to be on elizabeth warren's side, working to make financial products more transparent and fair. but we also need to look in the mirror and see how OUR OWN CHOICES impact where we are in life.
You know as someone who likes fashion, the state of the fashion industry today really troubles me. When I was a little girl, it was shameful for companies and celebrities to endorse lines that produced clothes in sweatshops. P. Diddy and Kathy Lee Griffen were both publically shamed for having "lines" that were made using sweatshop labor. Now it seems that all of our clothes are produced in sweetshops. I can name only a few lines that produce in the USA off the top of my head and all of those brands are upscale lines.
@chic noir I think that discussions around children ALWAYS come from a specific social location, and ignore the reality that most people who have kids often don't have the luxury of choice with childcare options, work options, let alone necessary health care.
@mygoldies - I think the author values being finacially secure after growing up very poor. As someone who grew up working class or "missing class" , I can say from personal experience that their is a certain level of anxiety that comes from being on the cusp of financial ruin.
Oh gosh, children. I don't think the current American working class or middle class lifestyle is child/children compatiable. Working long hrs for crap wages only to spend half of your income on childcare. Too physically and emotionally exhaused from work to really spend any quality time with your children during the week. No health insureance to take care of your kids when they are sick. What really makes me sad is poor and working class people NEED to have children to ensure(lets hope) they have someone to take care of them when they are older. That's something we Americans don't like to talk about but for poor people around the world, children are the original 401K or insurance policy,
There needs to be a new word for the kind of internet content that draws people out of the woodwork to say really obvious things. Like anything that's ever even tangentially related to the mommy wars.
@Morbo This is a personal essay about the author's life and her feelings about having kids. I think she explains herself pretty well. I doubt that her essay was a referendum on your life.
Wow, so judgey here today! The author certainly didn't seem smug to me, just realistic.
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I just got a part-time job offer that made me really considering quitting my current salaried position and going full-time freelance. Except there's so much to think about (like finding another part-time job to fill up the remaining half of my time), and it stresses me out.
So Wells Fargo killed a man? (is how my brain summarizes this)