@katiekate Yes, this! I work at a nonprofit and I majored in English. My job is 40+ hours a week of pushing through Excel spreadsheets, managing projects with tight deadlines and budgets, and fundraising--not to mention administrative tasks. Working at a nonprofit does not mean I get to (or expect to) have kumbaya time with my English BA feelings; it means that I'm doing corporate tasks for significantly less money because I agree with and want to actively support my organization's mission statement. I'm fucking sick of people treating nonprofits as something you screw around at for a while before you get a Big Boy job. I'm fucking sick of people acting like you shouldn't get paid at a nonprofit because nonprofits are soft, or something you go into while your husband (because of course you have a husband, because of course only women dally around in nonprofits which is yet another good reason to pay less!) works his "real job," or anything less than they are which is hard fucking work.
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@andnowlights So... this isn't your first rodeo? I think you should definitely let people know that. Just in case they try to pull a fast one.
@Morbo This is a personal essay about the author's life and her feelings about having kids. I think she explains herself pretty well. I doubt that her essay was a referendum on your life.
OK so here's the problem, and it's showing up in these comments everywhere: People say "oh I know diamonds are kind of unethically manufactured and aren't worth anything but I/my fiancee just like the symbolism anyway." You know what this is? It's perpetuating a culture! It is creating a world in which not having a diamond ring is considered weird and fucked up. Individual choices are important, but so is making them mindfully - asking why, exactly, your fiancee loves the idea of a diamond ring so much. (Answer: marketing.) Asking who, exactly, will be most affected by buying it. (Answer: Everyone around you who gets married, and also the people who died to mine diamonds in the past and the future.) Basically, acting like it's just a harmless preference is not cool.
@CubeRootOfPi Exactly yes to what you and charmcity said. Public interest positions are incredibly hard to get now, and they have always been hard to get, because they generally want you to show a specific commitment to their specific area. If you want a domestic violence position, you'd better have done specific internships in that field, and not anything else. And yeah, those internships are going to be unpaid, especially nowadays. Plus, if your job is in a high cost of living area, good luck paying what IBR wants you to pay on your public interest salary. I work for the government and live in NYC and guess what! I have other debt beyond my government debt that is eligible for IBR. I can't come close to making the IBR payment right now, on my very good government salary, and I'm single/no kids. If I could somehow get an apartment that cost $1500 a month less than what I pay now to live in Brooklyn, I could mayyyybe eke it out, but it would be hard. IBR sounds great in theory but in practice it's nowhere near the glorious panacea many are making it out to be.
@charmcity Re: public interest positions - also that many of them were being temporarily "taken" by deferred associates from large law firms and they didn't have to pay the associates. At least that was the case when I graduated - are law firms still deferring people? Also, public interest positions are expensive to get work experience for, at least during the summer. I went to law school intending to do public interest work, but I did the firm thing 2L summer primarily because I couldn't afford to work for free for two summers.
@aetataureate It seems a bit much unless you've been to the food stamp office. The feeling is very real, and very valid. I have been both a social worker and a teacher in very poor communities, and though I remain a staunch liberal who focuses upstream on our societies' problems rather than blaming those who sit in the office-there is no doubt that there is a culture of poverty that does not include life skills. Exactly why it's such a trap.
The thing about teaching though, and especially in high school and ESPECIALLY in public school, is that you literally can't go home and stop thinking about it. You're either spending your free time working on lesson plans, or coaching one of the teams or running other extra curriculars, or mentoring stduents. It's a 24/7 job. So that $50,000 a year paycheck really doesn't justify how much time you put into your job.
I do not, at all, understand people who let their properties go to shit. Don't they realize that real estate is a long-term investment? As in, in the long term, you will lose money and cause yourself so much more stress than if you just took care of shit. Ugh. My landlord is pretty okay. It helps that he lives down the street. Also, for people with landlord problems: DO NOT STOP PAYING RENT. Instead, send a letter (keep a copy) to your landlord that you inted to pay rent into an escrow account until whatever your issue is gets fixed. That way, you can prove that you're not a deadbeat, and don't give them legal grounds to evict you.
Reading this blog forced me to take a long look at my credit card debt and get serious about paying it down. When I found out that the interest rates on 3 cards were all over 27%(!!!!), I started a rage fueled payoff plan. I went from a total of $8696 in March to $4589 as of yesterday. Almost cut in half!