This is my biggest work-related fear. I have moved jobs pretty frequently - it will be 4 in 8 years by my next job hunt - though always on my own terms. I have been miserable at work, and I have been happy but sorely underpaid, and made the decision that changing for a better position was the right thing to do. Hopefully I won't regret it longerm.
We fell off the eating-out wagon face first this weekend: Friday was dinner out with a group of my friends (an overpriced $115 for two - including tip and cocktails but it's Baltimore, my dudes. What.), Saturday was brunch, book club, and dinner (book club was free, boyfriend got brunch and dinner) and then $20 for gas. Sunday was a $0 day because I worked. So $135 for ONE meal and a tank of gas! Still mad! Still need groceries!
Maybe this is because I have always worked at non-profits doing underfunded work where we are all multitasking, but I have never maxed out my PTO because there is no backup for my role(s). Partly it's because there really may not be another person who is equipped to fill in for me, although that makes me sound more important than I am, and partly it's that everyone is so overwhelmed, I don't want to ask them to do my 12 jobs on top of theirs. This isn't to say I don't take vacation, but I wanted to be the lone comment admitting that I do not take advantage of this, even though I know I should, and want to do better.
I really enjoyed this. I also work as a public interest lawyer, and took full advantage of all of the loan repayment programs I could find. Depending on your school, legal aid/defender employer, state bar, etc. they can range from simple to incredibly annoying and essay-intensive, but it was worth it to rid myself of all law school loans in 5 years. Now that I am in that 5-10 year range, I find the following two aspects of non-profit work to be the most problematic: 1. chronic underfunding means I have changed jobs a lot, always on my own terms to rewarding and meaningful new opportunities, but the trend seems to be towards short-term grant-funded projects rather than a stable pool of funding, and I feel like I'm always looking for the next job before the floor drops out from under me; 2. which leads to my next concern, which is that as I enter my 30s and think about things like buying a house and having a family, it's harder to deal with salaries that don't permit much saving (on the scale of a down payment), or long-term planning, or major costs like daycare.
@VelourFog Most of the time, if your employer offers health insurance that meets the standards of "minimum essential coverage" (basic benefits and 60% actuarial value), you do have to take it, even if an ACA plan would be cheaper. If your employer insurance premium is more than 8% of your income, you can choose to buy an ACA plan, but you are not eligible for any subsidies. Only if an individual policy from your employer is more than 9.5% of your income can you choose to buy an ACA plan with a subsidy. (If you have dependents and you pay more than 9.5% of your income for a family plan through your job, that is irrelevant, unless the individual policy that you do not want or need is more than 9.5%). So yeah it's super clear and easy for everyone to figure this out!!!
@capitulatenow I moved from DC to Baltimore about a year and a half ago for work. I miss aspects of DC a lot. Free cultural stuff everywhere! I am a lawyer working in non-profit advocacy for low-income people, and just felt surrounded by smart, passionate people who cared about those issues. But public interest legal work is viciously competitive and underfunded everywhere, and people NEVER leave their jobs (because it's so hard to find new ones.) Living in a competitive and increasingly expensive city like DC exacerbated all of these issues. Not only could I have never bought a house there, I could never even have afforded my own apartment. I had a roommate in Trinidad for three years, but was feeling like I was part of a rapid gentrification process that was out of my control and was going to price me out in the next year or so. DC is attracting a lot of young, affluent people, and my friends who made more money than me loved to eat out at awesome new restaurants and go to shows - and I was spending a lot just to socialize. Moving to Baltimore was a leap of faith, because although my job actually pays more, it is a 2-year contract, and I am worried about job hunting here. My bf and another close college friend have since moved here, and I am meeting people slowly, but I miss living in the same city as so many friends - to an extent, that seems to be a part of the phase of life I'm in (30) - people are starting to have babies and can't afford to stay in DC/raise kids there anyway. Everyone move to Baltimore and hang out with me and also guarantee me a job this time next year thanks!
"Prioritizing work, for me, feels like a feminist act. Everything is conspiring against it, so I am the only defender of my work’s importance." Fist pump! I loved everything about this piece, which articulates so well the fears I have when I consider whether my future should include parenthood. As a woman and a person who has worked hard to attain a life that includes a career that is a huge part of my identity, I feel that it is so important to talk (write) aloud about how real families make these choices.
Sorry, concept of "leftover" pizza does not compute. I eat all of the pizza on hand as quickly as possible and then order more.
@andnowlights Your single person non-list list is far better than mine was. So much frozen pizza and hummus.
This is very timely, as my boyfriend and I had a dumb fight on Saturday because I was trying to get him to make up a grocery list, he prefers not to use a list, I kept telling him to make a list, and he eventually told me that he "DIDN'T CARE!!!" and so I told him we weren't going grocery shopping at ALL! And went to Chipotle for dinner by myself. Productive! But - who shops without a list? I would just spend $100 on wine and crackers and cheese.