@Emily Anderer@facebook Commenting to second the "call financial aid to bargain/cry" advice. I also did this, and it always lead to a significant increase in annual scholarships at a state school. The first time I did it I received a 5k 4/year scholarship they hadn't given me in the first round. A couple of years later when I did it, they doubled another scholarship.
I swear, every time I read a piece and think "what an interesting character study" I get to the author and it's by Charlotte Shane. Also, Kai sounds a lot like a student I taught at an international school (also the son of a Chinese billionaire). We often tried to pinpoint whether he had a mental illness, because the narcissism, lying, laziness, and sort of laughing contempt for others *seemed* like it could be pathological.
My college major was globally focused, and when I first started interviewing for international jobs that required a lot of travel, whether or not I had children was asked in a sort of hinting way in a lot of the phone interviews (e.g. "The schools are pretty good around here, I don't know if that would interest you.." and a minute or two later "We haven't had many women in this role, because the travel can be hard if you have a family...") Most of it was phrased as statements rather than direct questions, and I answered without volunteering any info - "I don't have any concern about the travel; it's part of what interests me in this role". I couldn't prove that they were trying to ask if I had kids, but it definitely seemed like it.
I started babysitting when I was in 4th grade! Mostly for neighborhood families with toddlers, and often while one of the parents was at home and working. But I'd frequently take the kiddos down to the local park or to the local ice cream place down the street by myself. This was a little over 15 years ago...Stories like this make me concerned about having children today, bc I think the "adult supervision AT ALL TIMES" is bullshit and actually kind of harmful.
I just bought a vivofit and I love it. I'm super competitive, and their app offers virtual competitions against users with similar profiles week-by-week. I'm really good at the "not today because..." excuses for not working out, between work and grad school. This gets me to do something, and encourages me to look for small changes.
@crenb I worked at a restaurant, and we really didn't care most of the time when people sent food back; especially if it's something we honestly messed up on. The only time it was annoying was if someone did it when we were getting slammed for something that wasn't our fault (e.g. you didn't read the description of the stroganoff, and are now surprised it contains mushrooms and want a new one). We would still order you a new dish, but we would do so while hating you inwardly. I worked there for 4 years, and I never saw anyone spit in a customer's food. I'm sure it does happen, but I think you'd have to be a real asshole.
Friday evening: $40 dollars on a mother's day gift. Saturday: $10 dollars for parking at a 5k outside the city, which made me angry because they didn't mention they were going to charge for parking on top of the race cost (this was in the middle of nowhere, not in the city). Later spent $67 on groceries at Trader Joes. Sunday: I went to my parent's house for mothers day, and their neighbor who is a mechanic came over while my dad was taking a look at my car which has been making weird noises. He offered to fix my car for $100 plus parts. I needed a new rotor and brake pads, plus 2 new tires which came to $190, so $290 to have my car fixed (would have likely been 1000 in a shop, because auto shops like to try to charge me an exorbitant amount).
@AM Comcast is our only option too, and here is what we do to get affordable internet costs: cancel your service once a year and open a new account under someone else in the household (you have to have roommates or a spouse for this to work). You get different deals as a new subscriber. Right now, our internet is $30 a month for the first 6 months, will go up to $45/month after that for 25bps download speed. This was cheaper than all of the bundle deals they try to offer us, but we only had this option after we went through with canceling.
Comcast is my favorite example of irremediable commercial stupidity. They are horrible! My internet is inconsistent and often SIGNIFICANTLY slower than the speed I pay for, yet they literally do nothing to fix it. When I call them, I spend hours in phone tree hell. Last time I visited one of their store locations in person, the representative I spoke with basically said "Yes, Comcast is the worst, but it's not like you have a choice." And I don't - not really - because there is no competition. I often have to host/participate in online meetings from home for work and grad school, and no one else offers internet in our area with the speeds I need to do that.
@Trilby I think the biggest thing I've noticed between myself (state school grad - a strong midwest school for research and ranked pretty well but big and anonymous), and my friends from truly prestigious schools (Ivies, small private colleges) is the pride thing. My friends from really great schools carry themselves and interact with the world as though they expect to be valued and believe they have bargaining power even straight out of school. On the flip side, I find myself going into interactions with people from these schools feeling somewhat intimidated and automatically assuming they know more than me - even though over time it becomes clear that they really don't. I think that benefits them a lot. #anecdata