Spring is in the air, and as Alfred, Lord Tennyson famously said, it’s the time when a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love. Truly, this is an optimistic moment: buds are bursting through frost, fans of lousy baseball teams feel improvident hope, and in all matters romantic, we cannot help but think of the good things yet to come—the spark of new attraction, the idyllic domesticity of a shared apartment, the stomach-flutteringly massive notion of getting married. So let me bring you down to earth: There's a good chance you're going to get divorced, by which time you may have kids, and on top of all the other heartbreaks, you may embark on a lifetime of difficult conversations about money. Let’s talk about this.
The last thing I ever expected out of my otherwise well-planned life was a divorce. I didn't expect my marriage to last just 10 years and to be a single father at 37. Living through the financial impact of divorce has been like watching a tornado destroy what little I had built in my 15 years since finishing college.
If you have a half hour to spare over lunch and want to read a terribly messy story about a couple's five-year divorce battle in court, this is the story for you. It's quite sad, especially for the children involved.
Not too long ago, you grew up relatively wealthy in a nice part of town with lots of family around you. When your parents divorced (which you wholeheartedly supported), there were a few things you didn’t get. And part of that is how your old life started to dissolve from the age of 20. For starters, the families who live so close by? Those relatives want to love you, but it will be hard, because the parent you live with is now Enemy Number One.
I see my father about once a year. The last time I saw him, at a family dinner, we talked about Millennials, and how he had spent his twenties.
Single Mom: I'm 42 years old, divorced, and a single mom of three elementary school-age kids. I work in the administration of a nonprofit. I live in a Maryland suburb of D.C.
When your parents are divorced, you want to make everything as smooth as possible.
A recent episode of the Freakonomics podcast looked at the following question: Does having a baby girl or baby boy influence whether or not a couple decides to get a divorce or stay together for the kids? Some research says yes, families with first-born girls are likelier to get a divorce, though it all seems dubious to me since divorces are hyper personal and are caused by so many different things.
The Washington Post has a feature looking at how former NBA star Allen Iverson is doing three years after his last basketball game. It's not good.