The unspoken online dating rule—I mean, it’s pretty clearly spoken on “how to do OKCupid” sites—is that the first few dates should be low-cost.
It is Relationships Month here at The Billfold, and—with just one week left—I decided I would share a bit about the costs of my own relationships.
If my job were a person, she would be a kind and gentle woman (my workplace is 90 percent female). She’d be quiet—someone that generally leaves me alone.
When the basic premise of the game shifts from “everybody is a possibility, choose as many people as you want” to “you have scarce resources, be careful how you apply them,” you are going to worry that you aren’t apportioning your resources correctly. You are going to think “I really want to interact with you, but I can’t.” It will feel less hopeful, less exciting, less enjoyable.
Is this the Rock Paper Shotgun of things I want to do with my time?
The City of Seattle sets its current population at 640,500. The Pew Research Center claims there are 175,626 single men in the Seattle/Tacoma area. OKCupid says I might like 84 of them.
Or, What Prompted Me to Change My Tinder Bio to Simply: Buy me a drink.