Would You Ever Tell a Friend That They Were Making Bad Financial Decisions?

It seems obviously inappropriate to gang up on a coworker and stage a finance intervention about personal purchases, but what if the person were a close friend or family member? Have you ever told someone close to you that they were making bad financial decisions? Would you ever?

The Art of Losing Isn’t Hard To Master: J. Crew Shirt Edition

A few nights ago, Ben arrived home from work carrying several bags, none of them the one containing his newly bought shirt from J. Crew ($66, on sale).

When Two People Work From Home in a One-Bedroom

Taking short meaningless walks between the kitchen and the bedroom became his favorite hobby.

The Cost of Driving My Parents Home from the Hospital

Both my parents were in the ICU at Archbold Medical Center in Thomasville, my father with a broken neck and my mother with a fractured lower back. A truck had smashed into their SUV as they drove home from their Florida vacation.

Reconciling Love, Long Distances, and My Bank Account

We’ve been long distance for the past six months and have three months to go. My girlfriend studies German at a university, and as a part of her coursework she had to embark on her year abroad last September. The experience has been, besides predictably shitty, interesting. Over the past few years, I’ve somehow seen a lot of friends in long distance relationships—some of whom have managed it with frightening efficiency, others who have had giant burning messes. All things considered, my girlfriend and I have done pretty well.

Sometimes The Most Important Relationship Is With Your Coworkers

My coworkers have provided for me in ways that are less quantifiable than money, career, or real estate: it’s been in venting sessions over drinks, showing up to my events, movie nights, hugs, holidays spent together, and general support.

“What About Presents?”: How My Relationship Changed When We Merged Finances

One of our first discussions about combining our bank accounts was, “What about presents?”

Marriage, Money, and Compromise

By making shopping trips together, I learned to make a list and stick to it, and he learned that it’s not against the law to occasionally splurge on an unexpected set of headphones or a Duck Dynasty loofah.

Gold Diggers And Deadbeat Dads

Any gold digger willing to settle for me is lazy or silly or both. This is New York! There are way richer ladies with way higher earning potential who probably also know how to dance.

For Poorer

As the twentieth century draws to a close, I find myself the father of three boys under five.

The youngest is born under circumstances that seem positively routine compared with our first outing. When I return to hospital six hours after the birth, my wife is dressed and ready to go, the baby packed up like hand luggage.

Moving for a Relationship and Lessons From My Immigrant Parents

In August 2011 I’d just finished a year of wobbly misery in beautiful South Korea—teaching English—and by the end of it I had several thousand dollars and nothing else. I’d gone to Korea to travel and instead found myself in a swirling pool of depression, unable to connect with most of the excited ex-pats I spoke to, and unwilling to do the work to bridge the gap between myself and Koreans. This slow melt of melancholy meant that I rarely went out of my way to spend money on things, which allowed me to save more money than I knew what to do with. By the end I needed a break, so I took those thousands and went away to bum around in Southeast Asia.

Shopping With and For My Dying Mother

If you were an anthropologist and you observed my mother’s last months, you would inevitably conclude that spending sprees are essential to the dying process. About six hours after she died, my father and I stood together at the kitchen sink, unwrapping individual pieces of silverware with shiny mocha-colored resin handles and dropping them into a large bowl of soapy water. It was a job because there were two tiny rubber bands securing the wrapping to each piece. There was similar set with ivory-colored handles in the pantry, customarily used on holidays and other special occasions.

Adjusting Your Life to Your Partner’s Career

The big career costs, like one partner quitting a job to move to a place where the other partner has a job, are obvious. But combining your life with another person’s, at its core, has a time cost.

Prudie on Having a Starving Artist for a Partner: DTMFA

Talking to the Person is almost always better than Talking about the Person, especially when the Person’s behavior is the problem.

Love and Debt in a Nearly-Dissolved Marriage

My husband should have known what he was getting into.