I think if reading the money beat for a year -- certainly not something I read before this -- has taught me anything it's just that there is no right answer for anyone. I can share with you my reaction but I don't think it's ever necessarily the correct one. We all bring so much shit to the table. I love that this is a place where we discuss said shit, and our feelings about it, or just an honest accounting for how we've dealt with it. Sometimes a good old Cost of Things is much more illuminating than any of our ideas about any of it.
Emily Gould continues to write essays that unearth all the feelings under our barely-conscious money behavior, i.e., essays that we wish she would have written for us. This one is an excerpt from that one book, Women In Clothes, which is an anthology filled with writing by women that focuses on "style and its deeper meanings."
Is it just me or is everybody born in the summer? EVERYONE!!! No, but I was. Ester was born this weekend! Or you know, was born this coming weekend very few years ago. I had another in a series of birthday dinners last night and we all decided it's because people do it more in the winter. Which, according to this hilarious piece, An Open Rant Against Birthday Dinners, means we are all spending way more than we want to taking our friends out to dinner and then resenting them for it. TRUE?
Journalist and cartoonist Susie Cagle writes and draws on Medium (excellently, and for free (this time)) about "freelance labor, journalism, and survival." It is a familiar story but chilling nevertheless. As she said on Twitter, "I wrote & drew this about freelancing to let you know I'm looking for work, not to make you feel depressed."
I like to think I don't believe in psychics -- I don't! Do I? -- but also I am afraid of them in a way that belies my disbelief. I want to say that you can't be afraid of something you don't believe in but the brain doesn't work like that, does it? I'm afraid that psychics are real, or more specifically, I'm afraid that if I get too close, I'll believe in them against my better judgment. I feel about psychics the way some people feel about that flirty married guy in the office who is exactly your type and you just know you have to stay away from him. I don't trust myself to not get carried away.
By the time I got back to the apartment, greeted by a smiling baby, it was 11:30 a.m. I've been up for five hours, haven't done a lick of work, and have to feed the baby again at noon.
Enlighten your capitalism today with the always-incisive Susie Cagle's illustrated report back from the "Share" conference. It's so good.
I do not love the framing or the tone of this article, titled "Meet the Women Who Run Hollywood (and the Slacker Husbands They're Over)", nor do I suspect I would not like to be in the same room/planet as its author, but what I DO love are 1. women talking about their messy lives, 2. brewing resentment and 3. BETA MALES. And in that regard, this piece does not disappoint. At all.
Over at n+1, a reader writes into Kristin Dombek at the Help Desk, asking for help to cope with her feeling of being exploited by work, and the "white-hot festering rage that runs at all times in the background of my day to day."
Plenty of people have very practical advice about how to get a job or break into an industry, but when I look back on work in my 20's, I see mostly dumb luck, good timing, and knowing the right people. Sharing how I've gotten work so far may not be helpful or encouraging, but it is true, and true is a good place to start from. Here is my no-bullshit job history: