His advice is great. He is great. Here’s how he opens it:
Man, I’m very sorry to hear that. That is terrible, and I wish you the best.
There are about a million different ways to answer this question, depending on one’s circumstances, but here’s what I did immediately after getting fired last year:
1. Called my mom and told her not to freak out and that I was going to be fine – Because my mom is a worrier, I waited about 45 minutes after hanging up with her the first time and called her again to reassure her I was going to be OK. She said, “I’m so glad you called again. I was trying to lie down for a nap but I’m just so on edge now.”
2. Deposited my severance check – Hopefully you got a severance check. If not, to hell with that company.
3. Got a haircut – Try this. It feels good. I turned off my phone, sat down in the barber’s chair, and closed my eyes. When the lady asked how my day was going, I said, “It’s really great,” and I 90 percent meant it.
Do you see yourself as others see you? One way to check-in on and remedy the perception gap is “holding your own focus group”—the ultimate mix of narcissim and Terrible Ideas.
Searching for more clarity in her professional life [Mary] held a focus group with a mix of her friends and colleagues. Mary sat back and listened for several hours as the participants shared their thoughts about her strengths, abilities, and areas they’d like to see her explore [the session was moderated by a friend, and Mary wasn't allowed to respond — only to ask clarifying questions]…
Haha what a horrible idea. I really want to do it.