Friends, countryladies, commenters and lurkers on The Billfold, lend me your tab. I have an psuedo-ethical dilemma, and I need your advice.
Am I wrong to be incredibly irate about this? It’s hard to know what others in my position earn as the job is in a very niche industry and its tough to get an accurate range. I’ve already started looking for a new job, but not sure how to square all this so I can still get my job done and not just throw my hands up and completely check out mentally.
A genuine and probably too-broad question for the end of the day: Have any of you tried acupuncture and is it ‘worth it’?
Why don’t we start this morning with a WWYD, but have you readers help me this time?
I’ve been temping at Company X, a large company in Chicago, since the beginning of last August. I started temping here because I’d heard it was a good way to get hired on full time, and I liked the company. While I was here, my boss fought to get me hired, but she was turned down. I decided to change careers and go back to grad school.
My husband, our two kids and I need to buy a family home and in order to make that happen we are going to need more cash. Right now, it’s about earning more money. I want to stay in my current job with its attendant flexibility, and ideally I want to be paid more. I just am really dreading talking to my boss about a raise.
It’s a rare opportunity, but here’s the thing: It pays very little, with no room for negotiation and little room for advancement in the company (it’s a startup). I’m afraid that after months of applying, this is the best I can get and I shouldn’t turn it down since jobs are so hard to come by, especially in New York media.
Recently he suggested I take a ‘rent holiday’ for a few months because I’ve got some other big bills to pay, which is a relief! However, it’s also his birthday in a month and I had been thinking about getting him a Kindle — which now won’t be that difficult to afford given the ‘no rent’ thing. What is the etiquette on how much to spend on a present for someone when they’ve just done you a financial favor?
My boyfriend and I don’t make much money, but we’ve managed to build a healthy cushion, don’t have credit card debt and have reasonable plans for our student debt. So this really is just “fun money” that we can use for a wedding in the next year or two.
How important is the two weeks notice?
I was headhunted and offered a position with better pay, a better bonus, and more interesting responsibilities than at my current one. The thing that’s stopping me is my insurance.
I’m thinking of giving my poor coworker who is here as a contractor some money. Is that weird?
The PWWBMS wrote back confirming the receipt of the project and said they would be in touch in the next couple of weeks. Spoiler: They didn’t! It has now been over four months and now I am kicking myself for not following up earlier on – maybe a month after PWWBMS’s email.
We broke up. The worse news is that we were five months into a year-long lease that’s in both our names (neither of us is the primary person on the lease), and now we have to figure out how to talk to the landlords about what’s going on, and convince them to let us either change the lease, or break it altogether.
What do you think? should I have been happy with that I received, or should I have tried to negotiate more? — A.