Relationships

A Life Lesson from My Mother, a Freelance Financial Writer

It’s 6 p.m. on a Tuesday night and I’m having a meltdown. I’m in the seventh grade and sitting cross-legged on the floor of my mom’s home office. There are dozens of small stacks of white paper laid out across the floor with no discernible organizational method. She knows exactly where everything is, but only because it’s a giant game of “memory” she’s been playing for the last 15 days. It is April, the middle of tax season.

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Creating a Questionnaire Helped Me And My Boyfriend Talk About Money

My boyfriend and I just recently acknowledged our two-and-a-half year anniversary. During all of that time we’ve been making it work even though we are long-distance.

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Splitting the Bill With My Sisters

My sisters and I do not fight that often anymore, because we are older and more mature, but every time we do, it’s because of money.

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One Way the Tax Code Punishes Domestic Partners

At the beginning of 2014, I put my partner on the medical coverage I receive though my full-time employer. It was a godsend, as going without health insurance and trying to buy your own health insurance in New York City are both surefire paths to the poorhouse. For domestic partners who aren’t married, or for those forbidden from wedding by law, it is perhaps the best work perk you can come by.

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The Calculations

The calculations are based on what I have in disposable income in my checking account, which I’m looking at constantly, because it’s easier to keep your spending in check when you know exactly how many dollars you have to your name.

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How A Compulsive Worrier In The Midwest Does Money

“He makes sure I don’t go too far off the saving deep end, and I make sure we have enough money to pay all the bills.”

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A Practical Mother’s Day

When I was very young, my siblings and I would each buy $1 roses at our church and give them to our mother on Mother’s Day. She found the gesture sweet, but of course, if a seven-year-old gives you anything, you’re going to find it very sweet.

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Adoption Fees, Court Costs, Taxes: The Hidden Costs of Same-Sex Parenthood

“The most exciting thing about having DOMA struck down is that our taxes went down by half.”

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Phone Calls From Parents

I periodically get calls from my mother that lasts approximately 15 minutes and are focused solely on the state of my parents’ finances.

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