Mike: Last night, I returned from Dallas and landed at LaGuardia airport. I thought I’d take the bus to the nearest subway station, and then take the subway back to my apartment, so I went to the bus stop and waited. And waited. A half hour went by, and a bunch of buses showed up, but not the one I needed. I was very tempted to get into a cab and pay $65 (including tip), but I just didn’t want to spend that money. What would you have done?
Mike: I have powered through this week!
Logan is traveling for a wedding right now, so I thought I’d chat with Adam (who covers movies here) about this time in our life when our friends are starting to have children.
How do you do money, Michelle Lemay?
Mike Dang: Logan, I’m on my way to a wedding right now! I think there is a rehearsal dinner tonight. Probably fancy? Not sure? Also, I’m bringing a wallet full of cash. Rehearsal dinners are usually paid for by the parents of the bride or groom, but I don’t want to be the one without cash if that’s not the case here. ASSUME NOTHING, basically.
Logan Sachon: OH, HM. I would never consider that. When parents are involved, I always assume everything is covered. But that’s obviously a pretty classist assumption. I do still offer to pay for my share or the tip or something, fully expecting the answer to be no. Like, FULLY. But not at a wedding. You never pay at a wedding!
MD: Yeah, I’ve never heard of anyone going to a rehearsal dinner and then having to pay for him or herself, but I like being prepared anyway. I’m also trying to think of a situation where I was out with someone else’s parents and they didn’t pay for me, but I can’t. It’s part of the parents handbook, probably. “Consider paying for your child’s playmate when out to dinner.” — Dr. Spock
LS: But yes, I think it’s a good idea to always be prepared to pay for your own meal. Like, duh! I think it can be tricky though if someone invites you somewhere you know you can’t afford. A friend was in town recently and invited me out to dinner—she had the place picked. There was no chance she wasn’t going to pay. Okay there was a small chance. But I was 99 percent sure she was going to pay, though it still felt really kind of dicey.