“I’m not going to spend anything until Saturday when I have dinner with a friend, but by then I’ll have $80 that I could spend that day.”
When asked about a salary range, say, “Something that starts with a six.”
“Would you be willing to give up restaurants in return for getting up without setting an alarm every day?”
“I actually hate owing money and I (deflect the) blame (onto) my ex. He had a “enjoy now, pay later” mentality that I got caught up in the first year or two we were dating.”
“I have an emergency fund. It’s actually named “What Would Mike Dang Do?” so I don’t access it unless really necessary.”
Emily is a college sophomore living on the East Coast. She belongs to a prosperous Native American tribe in California.
“I think the biggest surprise has been how quickly we’ve moved to more and more merging. Initially we weren’t going to do any sort of joint savings, but we realized that aside from our retirement accounts, our savings goals are really joint goals.”
How do people in poly relationships handle the cost of poly dating? I chatted with Vicki, in NYC, and Diana, in Boston, to learn more about how each of them manage their finances within the context of their relationships.
“I don’t generally tell people that those are the things that make it harder for me, but he also hadn’t bothered to ask about the difficulty of getting in. Which I think is typical of people who don’t have disabilities and don’t realize the extra difficulty that many of us face in terms of access to work, transport and often just everyday life activities that many people take for granted.”