Etiquette

Revenge Giving, or Giving Out Of Spite

When you give money to a cause you know a person would hate, and you do it in their name.

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The Cheapest Generation Goes Generous for the Holidays

we miserly Millennials are having spendy holiday seasons

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How Much Do You Spend on Tattoos

If someone is holding a very sharp implement against your skin, that’s not a time to act like you’re in a flea market.

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Honey, Sweetie, Chief, Boss: How We Talk to Strangers

You might call a man you don’t know “chief,” but when that man is a judge and you are the defendant, you should probably go with “Your Honor.”

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WWYD: Bring Bottles In Yourself Or Leave Them for the Less Fortunate

The obvious thing to do is to trot down to the store with the bag of empties and exchange them for money, right?

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Unnecessary, Compulsive Frugality

I am not uniformly miserly. I allow myself the pleasure of good beer, periodic meals out at places where the entrees cost more than ten dollars, and, now and again, a vacation. But waste still feels deeply difficult.

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“How Are You?” “Busy.”

Nowadays “busy” is everyone’s default. Columnist Omid Safi calls it the “dis-ease of being busy, where we are never at ease.”

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How to Order Chinese Food

In Ruth Reichl’s fabulous memoir Garlic and Sapphires, about her tenure as the New York Times’ food critic, she describes a dim sum experience she had in Flushing with a graduate student from Hong Kong. The student’s advice was to begin by ordering fancy tea.

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The Cost of Owning a Pit Bull in the City, Pt. 1

When people say that owning a dog is expensive they never really break down what that means, so I truly had no idea how expensive they can be, especially if you want a well trained, obedient dog. I am not saying I have that, FYI.

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Living Together to Save Money

Generally speaking, roommates expect to keep their money separate, since they know the arrangement is temporary. Romance, though, works like peanut butter, slathering everything — especially money — in a sticky layer of complexity that is hard to remove.

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