Women Who Are Bosses

This interview between Lena Dunham and Mindy Kaling, two boss ladies who are also boss-ladies, is excellent:

LENA: What would you say is the hardest part about being a boss? I’d say it’s that there’s no convenient time to take naps and the constant sense that you are neglecting something or someone.

MINDY: I want to be part of the gang. I don’t want to be the gang leader who has to stay on gang schedule and pay gang taxes. I have to do that stuff now. Sometimes I just want to shoot my machine gun in the air, you know?

Also this, from Mindy Kaling:

I love women who are bosses and who don’t constantly worry about what their employees think of them. I love women who don’t ask, “Is that OK?” after everything they say. I love when women are courageous in the face of unthinkable circumstances, like my mother when she was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. Or like Gabrielle Giffords writing editorials for the New York Times about the cowardice of Congress regarding gun laws and using phrases like “mark my words” like she is Clint Eastwood. How many women say stuff like that? I love mothers who teach their children that listening is often better than talking. I love obedient daughters who absorb everything—being perceptive can be more important than being expressive. I love women who love sex and realize that sexual experience doesn’t have to be the source of their art. I love women who love sex and can write about it in thoughtful, creative ways that don’t exploit them, as many other people will use sex to exploit them. I love women who know how to wear menswear.

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aetataureate (#1,310)

Mindy Kaling’s gender essentialism shtick is super old to me (blockquote here included) but I loved last week’s Mindy Project where she dates fortyish skater Timothy Olyphant and is like, You are a mess, and stupid, and I need an adult man.

Meaghano (#529)

@aetataureate yeah I hear that (to both!)

aetataureate (#1,310)

@Meaghano “My body is very attracted to your body, but when you speak, my brain gets angry.”

tuntastic (#2,769)

@aetataureate the question (which prompted the block quote) was “what inspires you about other women?” so I think her answer is appropriate and not gender-essentialisty.

aetataureate (#1,310)

@tuntastic Yes — I read it — and believe her answer is extremely gender essentialisty. You can talk about women without relying on shitty old tropes like “How many women talk like Clint Eastwood?” What? Come on.

tuntastic (#2,769)

@aetataureate It’s pretty clear that what she’s driving at is that some (many) women struggle with a culture which demands that they apologise for having opinions and in which women aren’t encouraged to be assertive. You might find the reference to Clint Eastwood a shitty trope, and I agree he’s a weird role model to pick, but the audience is the teens and tweens of Rookie so I think it is an awesome message – that women can have strong opinions and express them forcefully.

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