Will You Still Love Me When I’m No Longer Young and Beautiful And Doing 1 Thing Successfully Each Thursday

Thursday is a great day to do that 1 thing you don’t want to do but also don’t want to continue thinking about doing.

My 1 thing is: Don’t go shopping. Life was so much easier when purchasing items of clothing wasn’t even remotely an option for me, but now because I have this second job working in a restaurant, I have some “extra income” that I keep accidentally giving to proprietors of clothing items instead of, you know, to my creditors. Anyway. So my goal for this week is just to continue to not shop, which: Doing great, doing good. Things bought this week: 0. Shops entered this week: 0. Keep it up, Sachon.

I also haven’t been to a Pret all week, which is a whole other 1 thing. (gasps) (claps)

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travlinggirl (#4,335)

That is also my 1 thing! Except that I’m on a clothing ban for the next month. I kinda went overboard in June :(

I’m also on a shopping hiatus! It’s great but also terrible. I just want some new shirts so bad. I think if I can get rid of 25 things in my closet I will allow myself 3 new tops. That’s a good deal right.

My official 1 Thing for today only though is to make a vet appointment for my dog and try to guess how many dollars it’s gonna cost. Must be done.

francesfrances (#1,522)

@backstagebethy Oh my god, your dog is so cute.

nogreeneggs (#154)

@backstagebethy Ugh I just took my pup to her annual check-up/vaccination appointment and it cost me $96. It hurt, but she got some important vaccinations and my vet only charges for one office visit every year. So now if I need to go in for any reason for the rest of the year it’s covered.

Also, my vet praised me a ton on what good health my dog is in and how I’m such a good dog-mom so that made the $$ hurt less. Love getting praised.

E$ (#1,636)

These titles always make me laugh.

My 1 thing was to set up an automatic savings transfer after payday. I suspended it when I lost my job, but then I got a new job! And I want to get used to saving more right off the bat, so I don’t have that ol’ disappearing-money problem as often.

@E$ Good job getting on that!

faustbanana (#2,376)

Go Logan! Shopping isn’t even that great. I bought a pair of jeans on Tuesday that I was happy about, and now I’m wearing them and I’m like whatever, maybe even beyond whatever into “ugh” territory. Sometimes I feel like Steve Buscemi in Ghost World when I wear jeans.

My 1 THING today is to list several things on ebay that I don’t want and that will bring me $$$.

@faustbanana This should be my 1 Thing! Instead, opting out of AT&T’s new privacy thing is my 1 Thing.

@Heather Yamada-Hosley Oh dear is this AT&T privacy thing something I should know about :/

readyornot (#816)

Is it something about summer that makes us shop? Ugh.

My 1 thing was to cancel an automatic transfer from checking to high interest savings and set up automatic transfer into brokerage account mutual fund shares instead. We have an emergency buffer in place, this was next step.

francesfrances (#1,522)

@readyornot Yes, it is summer. I really think it is.

For me, changing seasons is incredibly stressful. I can’t stand the heat and humidity, and I’m not built for it – glasses, flawed skin, extremely long and thick curly hair, thighs bigger than I want them to be. So, flattering, breathable clothes offer confidence and relief from feeling gross/unhappy. I’d guess this is something a lot of women deal with. Plus, companies really market summer. But I’m not sitting in a breezy meadow everyday! I’m in my office….so I probably don’t need tons of denim shorts and airy tops. Anyway, in summer, I shop like crazy, and it’s so bad.

And then it’s winter and I realize I need more sweaters, so then I shop like crazy, and it’s so bad.

lizard (#2,615)

@readyornot summer stuff is just cuter. i dont want to buy an ugly old pea coat but i DO want 539529384 sundresses and strappy sandals

j a y (#3,935)

So restaurants don’t count as shops? :-)

Regardless, good job(s)

aproprose! (#4,359)

My do 1 thing is to buy my Chicago city sticker for my car so I don’t get a ticket when they start enforcing the rules on Tuesday!

aetataureate (#1,310)

@aproprose! Do this 1 thing!!

joyballz (#2,000)

@aproprose! You know they will enforce this at 12:01. Get on it!

bgprincipessa (#699)

@aproprose! what is this thing? What are they doing?

Cup of T (#2,533)

@aproprose! Yes please explain! Currently out of Chicago and afraid of tickets…

aetataureate (#1,310)

@all There’s been a heavy amount of coverage of how strict they’re going to be. It’s too late to order a new sticker online so you have to go to a city place or to Dominick’s. If you don’t have a sticker by the beginning of the enforcement period, you’ll have to pay for a sticker, a late fee, and the $200 ticket for not having a sticker.

bgprincipessa (#699)

@aetataureate and what does the sticker say/do? That you are a resident? What if you’re not a resident? You can’t park anywhere?

aetataureate (#1,310)

@bgprincipessa If your car is registered in the city of Chicago you have to have a sticker or you’ll be ticketed for parking anywhere in the city. If your car is registered anywhere else, it doesn’t apply even if you’re driving in the city.

aproprose! (#4,359)

@aetataureate Ooh, quite a little thread erupted! Yes, you always need to buy an annual sticker to park in Chicago on the street. This isn’t a new rule, or anything. Last year’s stickers expire on Tuesday.

Caitlin with a C (#3,578)

My one thing is to remember to put in my vacation/doctor requests for the next few pay periods. It’s overly complicated!

bgprincipessa (#699)

@Caitlin with a C ulgh I always feel guilty when I make dr. appts – which is WRONG, but I feel like I always get grief for it.

Caitlin with a C (#3,578)

@bgprincipessa Me too! Sometimes I get something like, “oh, I don’t know… you ARE taking a vacation day two weeks later. That’s a lot of time to be away.” Really?

bgprincipessa (#699)

@Caitlin with a C yes exactly this! I need life lessons in standing up for myself, I know, but it’s so difficult sometimes. I get a huge sigh “ohhh ok. Well I guess but we will need to find backup for you. I don’t know how I’ll manage.” I’LL BE GONE 2 HOURS.

echolikebells (#3,272)

My one thing is to find a person I don’t dislike that can attend a music festival this weekend with me. I already have the pass for them for free so you would think this wouldn’t be difficult. It is.

megsy (#1,565)

@echolikebells I would find it difficult because people annoy me, especially when you are with them all day and you have to decide which bands to see at the festival

echolikebells (#3,272)

@megsy People annoy me also, and generally the disagreements about which band to see feel like they outweigh the benefit of having a pal. But 11 hours is a long time to spend without a friend to talk to while I wait for bands, hence the search.

For the curious: still no one to go with. This whole endeavor is making me feel wildly unpopular with my friends.

pinches (#3,520)

Good job, Logan!!!

aetataureate (#1,310)

My 1 thing is to find a place to live, which I am starting to do now! Including looking at at least one place tomorrow. AHHH

megsy (#1,565)

My 1 thing was to get to class this morning. I failed. So I went for $2.50 student breakfast to soothe my conscience.
I’m REALLY glad I’m not going to be working in the fall because I’m so tired.

francesfrances (#1,522)

IT’S SO HARD NOT TO SHOP.

That’s maybe the most ridiculous sentence I’ve ever wrote. I order stuff from Gap/Old Navy at least once a month, usually with insanely deep discounts. But today, I unsubscribed from Gap emails. No more deals.

I’ve started getting packages shipped to work so my roommate won’t know because she’s unemployed and I feel like a total jerk for shopping. But I want more running shorts, and they are $7 on sale instead of $20, and that seems like a fantastic deal, doesn’t it?

Alas, I’ve unsubscribed from emails, which is step 1. Step 2 is….just go directly to the website to buy things.

francesfrances (#1,522)

@amyfrances CORRECTION to my first sentence: “ever WRITTEN.” Bahh. Too worked up about shopping to use proper grammar!

shannowhamo (#845)

@amyfrances YES I’ve been trying to really not shop and the first step was ceasing all retail email lists because if I see a sale then I go to the site and I will fill my shopping cart. Do I always hit “buy”? Not always but it’s very tempting and I can’t do it! Especially the rate at which online purchases don’t work out! I go to great legnths not to pay shipping but 50% have to pay return shipping, it’s so stupid!

Stina (#686)

I just got a raise. (Yay!) So I decided that the entire difference in pay will get contributed to my retirement account because I am a bit behind with that. (Boo!) Unfortunately the computer couldn’t do it all for me, it required talking to a real human but I just did it! Change made.

aetataureate (#1,310)

@Stina Congratulations!! Also good money choices.

Stina (#686)

@aetataureate Thanks! And I am sending you good real estate vibes right now for your place search.

My 1 Thing was to withdraw $150 in cash for weekend “fun money” — trying this system to see how it goes. I also put $150 in my reserve account for next weekend’s fun money. So let’s see if I can manage two weeks with only $180 to spend on “everything else” (groceries and bills are covered by the joint account).

hellonheels (#1,407)

My one thing (maybe I have just had AP Style beaten into me but I seem to be constitutionally incapable of typing 1 Thing, ugh) was to cancel my student loan auto-debit. For some reason, although Sallie Mae allows users to do all sorts of things online, from applying for deferment or forbearance to changing a due date, they won’t allow you to raise the goddamn amount of your auto-debit if you want to pay the thing off early (and I am guess that reason is that they want to squeeze out every cent of interest possible). So anyway, I canceled it and now I am going to manually pay $410 extra each month so I can pay it off the same month as I pay off my car, and feel what it feels like to be debt free for a (probably very short) period of time.

themegnapkin (#444)

@hellonheels I don’t know if they’re still doing this, but in 2005 right after I consolidated my loans, Sallie Mae knocked maybe 0.5% (?? I think it was 0.5%?) off of my interest rate for signing up for auto-debit.

hellonheels (#1,407)

@themegnapkin You know, I thought something like that might have been the case, but when I looked arount at what “benefits” I was receiving for auto-debit, it didn’t seem to be one. But maybe it just wasn’t recorded there. In any case, I guess .5% isn’t going to make much of a difference if I pay it off in two and a half more years rather than 13.

skip2mylou (#2,806)

@hellonheels You can still keep the auto-pay plus manually pay extra. I keep the auto-pay with Sallie Mae for the .5% reduction and then just put in extra manual payments when I have extra cash. The deposits from my Upromise account spending also go in as extra payments. Neither change my auto-debit.

My one thing has already been accomplished! WOO HOO! I called my work phone provider to be like “how do I switch this phone so somebody else is paying the bills” <– note I quit in february and have been paying the bill since then and sent in an invoice which I just received, but I have to send in another one, when I wasn’t even sure they were still using it, not to mention they weren’t particularly reliable when I worked there, let alone now that I’m not there every day SO ANYWAY WAY TO MAKE GOOD MONEY CHOICES SELF.

But I did it. It’s easy. I just have to go into work at the same time as my boss and then … ugh it already sounds awful, how will it ever be accomplished. Who knows.

themegnapkin (#444)

I had an electrician come by my place this morning to fix wiring that was a fire/electrocution hazard, and just called an HVAC company to get an estimate for installing air conditioning. 2 things!

PicNic (#3,760)

my one thing was to cash a check my roommate gave me for June utilities kind of a while ago. I finally did it yesterday and then immediately bought myself an iced coffee as a reward which 20 minutes later gave me the caffeine shakes because it was my 3rd iced coffee of the day and then I threw it up.

My more pressing long term One Thing to do is just too much:
find a new primary care. get a referral to an in-network psycho-pharm. make (and keep) an appointment with this new person. get new prescription (actually fill the prescription). feel better. go to the gym. feel better. go grocery shopping. feel better. take a shower. feel better. feel better.

francesfrances (#1,522)

@PicNic That’s not one thing. That’s a million things. You did one today (cash the check). Do one thing tomorrow. Just one!

Either that, or try tackling that stuff in groups. Make some tea, sit down at your computer with your health insurance information, and figure out those healthcare to-dos like it’s your job, like you’re working on one single project. When you are done, get up and leave the desk. It sounds stupid, but when I have a long list of tiny to-dos, it helps me to sit down with all necessary materials and take it really seriously.

You could also combine the shower and the gym! I got over how much of a hassle it can be to shower at the gym buy investing ($40) in a nice gym bag, packing it with stuff, and just showering at the gym. It feels good to leave the gym clean, with two things crossed off the to-do list (exercise and shower) rather than just one.

I hope you have enjoyed this unsolicited advice from a complete stranger.

aetataureate (#1,310)

@PicNic I hope this might help you: Make the Job Smaller

PicNic (#3,760)

@aetataureate that article is so so spot on. Just reading it gave a little boost. thanks for sharing

PicNic (#3,760)

@amyfrances yeah – in preparation of the thing I made a list of all the pieces of the thing. I’m taking Monday off from work and my One Thing for Monday is going to be to call 2 practices to see if any of their docs are taking new patients, and if so to make an appointment.

I like the idea about the gym too. For some reason I noticed my gym hasn’t been charging me, but I haven’t bothered with it because I haven’t been going. But if I go I need to clear it up because otherwise Guilt so that might be one thing for next week. or the week after

aetataureate (#1,310)

@PicNic Ahhh I’m so so glad <3

allreb (#502)

My one thing was to call a restaurant and make a reservation for my birthday. I did that yesterday! And they told me to email it in. So I did, and got zero confirmation, and today had to call back to confirm. Except they said they had to check a system and would call me back, and did not. So I am still in the middle of my one thing, and really hope it all works out, because if I have 11 people and no reservation on Monday, neither the restaurant nor the people nor I will be very happy. :(

la_di_da (#1,425)

Two things done! I ended that stupid equifax thing becuase now that I have my score I don’t need them AND bought an a/c because my living room is currently a swamp.

BUT I still have to make a dentist appointment, which was my one thing from like, June. Ugh. Slowly but surely.

Beaks (#3,488)

@la_di_da Dentist is my one thing from March. I have done many other one things, but my old dentist isn’t in my new dental insurance network and I just don’t want to bother. My dentist’s office actually called again yesterday to remind me, so I guess that’s a good reminder I should at least call and find out what the insurance deal is…

Is this where I sing the praises of impulsesave.com as a super-easy way to GET MY MONEY AWAY FROM ME when it needs to go to someone like a creditor and not someone like a clothing store employee?

SnarlFurillo (#2,538)

I just did my one thing which is make an appointment to apply for my VERY FIRST PASSPORT which I will use in the unlikely event that I decide to use my upcoming “funemployment” as an excuse to go to a cheap language school for a while. Likeliest event is that I move back in with my parents and cry a lot. But I’ll be a crier with a passport!

Beaks (#3,488)

@SnarlFurillo Yay passport! If nothing else it is about 100% easier to just use a passport for ID than carry around like 3 other forms of ID that somehow add up to passport.

selenana (#673)

My one thing was to make an appointment for my annual check up, finally done! The first clinic I called didn’t have any Saturday appointments and I have to get it done by the end of August to get my work to cover it. Finally found a clinic that could take me in another week. Been putting that off for a few months.

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