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This Is Exhausting

12:07 p.m.

Revelation (for the … zillionth time?): We live in an uncertain world. That I have been living hand to mouth and getting by is a miracle of luck and statistics. But this cannot go on forever. It’s been good, but it’s time to buckle down. Real talk, Logan: You have not prepared for any outcome. Broken ankle? Unprepared. End of the internet? Unprepared. Someone leaving a baby on your doorstep with a letter that they want you to raise it? Unprepared. Anything at all to happen other than things just keep on working out? Unprepared. 

I need to save every dollar I have and make more dollars and Figure This Stuff Out. Like seriously. I can’t believe I’ve spent so much money on so much crap. Bygones, though. Forgiveness. I absolve myself of that. But from now on, it’s got to be on. Black beans and rice. And not cans of black beans either. The dried kind. That you have to soak. This is real. I need to be prepared. I’ve got to take care of myself. This is happening. Everything is going to change. This is the start of a new me. Resolved.

12:18 p.m.

Oh wow this restaurant sounds great and exactly my kind of place and I can’t wait to go and I wonder if I should add it to the list of places I want to go or if it’s finally time to make that google map of all the restaurants I want to go to? I’ll think on that. But soup, yes, soon, calendaring. $19.95 for atmosphere, dinner, wine, full meal, done. Thanks for the tip. Sure glad I found this.


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LDW@twitter (#1,216)

Logan, Logan, it IS possible do both, CC debt, lack of savings, and all. Every debt payment and savings plan I’ve read here says that the thing that helps is not giving up the things you love. What about starting a Great Atmospheric Restaurant fund? It could be a way to practice building a savings account.

Quinn A@twitter (#1,008)

Awww, Logan. I understand. I have to really crack down on my spending right now, and it’s only making me want to spend more. I have no consumer debt because I fear it, but depriving myself of anything fun feels only slightly less scary and a whole lot more sad than debt. It’s hard!

How have things been going with your debt? You’ve already paid off one card since this started, right? And not adding new debt because Mike has all your credit cards? I bet you’re doing great. Just keep going, and don’t beat yourself up over not being able to maintain that “just beans and rice FOREVER” attitude. Savings are great and I would never encourage you to acquire more debt, but it’s okay to be kind to yourself. Balance!

Megano! (#124)

I’m pretty sure if you eat JUST beans and rice forever, you will die.

faustbanana (#2,376)

I like how cans of beans are synonymous with hobos, but in some scenarios are the swankier option.

TARDIStime (#1,633)

@faustbanana Haha, I actually think this every time I grab the cans of lentils at she shops instead of the dried ones!
It’s crazier when you realize that the cans are even more of a rip off because they charge by weight and like 1/3 of the tin just has liquid in it!
Buuuuuuut they require so little prep – no regrets!

aetataureate (#1,310)

@faustbanana Your beans are PRE-BAKED? /picks up teacup, holds out pinky

The way forward is the middle path. And the middle path is canned black beans.

CLhere (#2,548)

So did you get the baby gift basket I left? I got you the one with the chubbiest cheeks. Thank you, 1-800-BABIES!

ThatJenn (#916)

It is exhausting! But each time you make a good choice it really does add up. This is why you’ve paid off two cards and been living without racking up more debt! That is something we rarely give ourselves credit for, when we start focusing on paying down debt. Not ONLY are we suddenly throwing a bunch of our income at our existing debt (curbing our lifestyle), we’re ALSO having to give up all the things those cards used to buy us. It blows! It is exhausting and horrible and then one day you’re like, oh, today didn’t suck quite as bad and I spent $0. And then the next day sucks but eventually you have more of the better days, just in time to realize you’ve paid off another card. I am sorry you are feeling this way, though. I also have a default setting to SPEND SPEND SPEND and it is so stupid. It is so very similar to how I have always been fat and I have no basic instinct telling me to stop eating or to move around and those things are a massive willpower test all the time and that is so effing draining. Battling one’s own brain – for money, for weight, for depression – just blows and there’s no two ways about it, but often the ultimate outcomes are worth it.

dudeascending (#1,921)

I know you’re trying to be funny, and hey, you are funny, but when I read stuff like this, I’m just baffled and saddened. I want to post critical, helpful things here because it’s, like dudette, you don’t have it so bad! You can do this! But not if you keep undermining yourself with ha-ha jokey jokey. And I get it, you don’t really want help; you want empathy.

But I try to resist responding like this because much like Kanye cutting off Taylor Swift, it’s like stepping on a kitten.


Slutface (#53)

@Logan Sachon I kind of agree? But I think there are worse things you could be wasting your money on than food. A girl’s gotta eat.

dudeascending (#1,921)

@Logan Sachon
I’m sorry for stepping on you, angry kitty! Now you have a broken ankle, and you’re all unprepared. :(

lookimadeahat (#3,230)

@dudeascending Um just to clarify, we all realize that Logan is an adult professional writer and not a baby animal, right?

AlliNYC (#1,725)

I was really hoping that the soup place was a restaurant that ONLY sold soup, in which case I was fully prepared to write the “How Did You Spend Your Last $100?” column by writing: SOUP.

It would have been pretty great, I’m telling you.

lookimadeahat (#3,230)

I think part of the reason that I personally have had trouble sticking to grand plans for saving money is because I get into the mindset of “I MUST LIVE LIKE A MONK IN THE MOUNTAINS” and give up all things that are delicious and full of joy, because I feel like desperate times call for desperate measures. But if you go for the dramatic route, you’re going to break it right away. Like, if I say I’m going to buy dried beans, I will never, ever soak them, so I’m just going to end up buying an overpriced sandwich or something. But if I buy canned beans, it’s a bit more than dried but not as much as a sandwich and that’s one more day I’ll go “being good”. But that’s the trap – like, I am “bad” if I’m spending money, so it’s easy to go “I was bad today so my plan is already shot, so screw it, I’m getting a latte”. But money does not necessarily equal morality, dude. I’m not going to say “don’t be so hard on yourself” because that advice only ever frustrates anyone, but I will say that being hard on yourself is not going to help you very much. Lord knows it’s easier said than done, but I sometimes try to remind myself that I have never once been like, “God, I’m SO GLAD that I made myself feel terrible about this! It was really helpful!” So, like, do rice and beans if that’s going to help you save, but maybe also get a kind of salsa you like to put on it, or have fancy tea for afterwards, so there is some kind of satisfaction involved. You are not Banished from Being A Person because you are Bad. You are doing your best to save some money. You have not committed any crimes (that I know of). (Watch, now I’m going to see a headline, “Blogger Murders Everyone At Soup Place Out Of Stress, Has Fancy Tea Afterwards”.) I hope this wasn’t too advice-y, but I feel like we have quite similar thought patterns about this kind of things and I’ve been making a bit of progress recently so I thought I’d comment!

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