Comments on: Getting Married, But Without the Wedding

By: emilyo

emilyo — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 03:56:21 +0000

@ladybug best place ever!!!

@kellyography awwwww thank you!

@inspector_tiger yes!! and the pizzaiolos sent out a heart shaped pizza when they realized what was up!!

By: RebeccaKW

RebeccaKW — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 21:45:14 +0000

@likethestore My mother thankfully understands that I don’t want a big wedding (whenever it may happen). However, she is adamant that I will have a wedding shower (and a baby shower, if that ever happens). Her reasoning is “because you WILL.” It doesn’t matter that I don’t want one or see the point in one.

By: painterstape

painterstape — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:41:22 +0000

By: RocketSurgeon

RocketSurgeon — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:44:13 +0000

Thanks for this. We’re getting married in mid-April at city hall with some family and close friends (~15 people). I have a short, royal blue dress, I might grab some roses from the bodega on the way to city hall. We’re taking our “wedding” guests to dinner afterward and then hosting a cocktail party the next day to celebrate with other friends. As for family who won’t be attending, it’ll give us an excuse to drink some champagne with them next time we see them.

The only “traditional” thing we’re doing is hiring a photographer, because my mom has always said that she didn’t care where/how/with whom we get married, but she wants a good (non-iPhone) photo of us on our wedding day.

Total cost is a several grand with the photographer, buying dinner for 15 and an open bar for 3hrs at the party, but it’s worth it to do it the way we want to.

By: steponitvelma

steponitvelma — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:37:38 +0000

@readyornot I agree wholeheartedly. I understand the sentiment behind small weddings, particularly when you factor in the cost-savings. But weddings are so fun! I love the chance to get tipsy and dance and see my friends look so beautiful and happy. I’ll probably die alone, but on the off chance I don’t, I’d love to have the kind of wedding that people talk about for years because of how much fun they had.

By: annev6

annev6 — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 13:52:22 +0000

@readyornot I agree. A wedding, like any party, should be about the guests. I think the problem with modern weddings is people think it’s all about the bride. But frankly, no one is going to have fun at any party that’s only geared towards making one person feel special. Weddings are about thanking the people around you for being a part of your life and supporting your relationship. And it gives your parents a chance to take nice pictures and have all the family together. It’s a milestone and I think it gets a bad wrap nowadays thanks to the culture of the bridezilla. But really, I think that whole bridezilla thing is on its way out. Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding that just makes everyone involved miserable is one of those traditions that I don’t think will survive in our post-recession world. It’s just sooooo 2005.

By: theproductslut

theproductslut — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 05:56:48 +0000

I loved my courthouse wedding. We lucked in to a gorgeous 70-and-sunny day in early February. We had 20 guests, including our immediate family. After the ceremony, we went to the bar my husband worked at and had a beer toast (my friend surprised us with a light saber arch and the Ewok celebration song to walk in with, which made for awesome laughing photos), and then we all went out for Chinese food (courtesy of my sister-in-law). $60 for flowers, $50 for the judge, $50 for the license, $50 for 2 dozen cupcakes 2 d and $300 for the wedding rings (his was triple the price of mine because his hands are bigger, but they are plain white gold bands). Loved it!

By: Lindsay Cochran@facebook

Lindsay Cochran@facebook — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 02:10:04 +0000

My husband and I did a no frills wedding for about $1K. I wore the dress my maternal grandmother wore, and my mom gave me my grandparents’ bands. my paternal grandmother gave my husband her diamond for me.
we packed a picnic with wine, meats, and fruits, and walked over to montrose harbor with a few close friends and family members. picked a spot under a lovely lilac tree, then my best friend performed the ceremony, which was quick, sweet, and tailored to us. after the picnic, we walked back to our house where the remainder of our close friends celebrated for hours. booze, food, cake (with a hilarious topper compliments of etsy). best. day. ever.

By: likethestore

likethestore — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 00:00:46 +0000

This is the way to do it. You’re lucky you don’t have a mother who thinks it is actually HER day, not the bride’s. I’m not even in a relationship and my mother and I frequently fight over how she wants to plan a big affair with a fancy dinner and poofy white dress and jordan almonds etc etc etc. I fear I’m doomed to have seven bridesmaids all in matching crappy satin David’s Bridal dresses. Barf.

By: kellyography

kellyography — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 22:49:28 +0000

@emilyo Oh my goodness, what a charming way to do a wedding. And you and your husband are cuties! Your photos really make the tiny ceremony/celebration look super appealing.