Weddings! Babies! PATRIARCHY!

Sady Doyle and Willa Paskin took to Salon to talk about Liz Lemon’s wedding (uh, spoiler I guess, can you spoil a sitcom, IDK) and Having It All. Then Sady brought the party back to her tumblr for a must must must read post about not wanting to have a kid because of money and so many other reasons, versus wanting to have a kid because “I’m SO OLD, I basically HAVE to.” She goes on: “One of these was the smart thought. The other one was The Patriarchy, making me stupid.”

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blair (#1,962)

Ahhhhh you can spoil a sitcom!!!!!! But it’s okay I’m super behind on 30 Rock anyway because Netflix because what Millenial owns a TV. And also someone posted that list of Liz Lemon Wedding Cocktails on Facebook yesterday so I guess this was pre-spoiled for me

Megano! (#124)

@blair It was definitely prespoiled for me, because their Facebook fanpage had been pimping it for weeks.

Anne (#33)

Logan! You posted the second story of the day! Wooohooo!!!

WaityKatie (#1,696)

I feel like this comes up in the abortion debate sometimes too, like, even among people who are fervently pro-choice, there’s kind of this perception that if you’re old enough, why wouldn’t you just have the kid? Regardless of whether you want a kid, or want one now, or ever, etc. Like, I was recently having a conversation with my (fervently pro-choice, women’s rights activist) friend, and she just kind of joked, “well, you know, you COULD take care of a kid if you got knocked up, you have the resources, blah blah, etc.” As if child-hating me would be somehow obligated to have a kid if I (GOD FREAKING FORBID) accidentally got pregnant because I “could,” i.e., I have a professional job, I could technically afford it, I could take good care of it, people would help and support me, etc. Like abortion is just for people who literally cannot afford financially or psychologically to care for a child? I just found that tack rather disturbing. And it’s the same with marriage, I mean, you can say you don’t believe in marriage all day long, and people just kind of wink and say “welllll but if you met the right guyyyy, why WOULDN’T you get married?” Um, because I don’t believe in marriage?! Nobody takes it seriously, like that’s not a belief anyone could actually have.

Lily Rowan (#70)

@WaityKatie On the abortion front, I am a person who theoretically wants kids. When I was about 30, I had a pregnancy scare while in a basically mediocre relationship. While I was waiting to pee on the stick, I knew immediately and deeply that I would have had an abortion if I had actually been pregnant. It was actually kind of great to realize that yeah, I was right all along to believe that people should be able to make those choices. Sure, I had a job and a boyfriend and a nice family, but I didn’t want to have a baby just then!

WaityKatie (#1,696)

@Lily Rowan Yeah, I mean, if it’s a choice it should be a choice, right? Not just “it’s a choice if you can’t take care of it; otherwise, it’s mandatory.”

Lily Rowan (#70)

@WaityKatie Exactly. “I mean, if you’d be a really terrible parent, I guess….”

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